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    I wouldn't be comfortable with it either, I hope you can work it out with DH so you're both comfortable with whatever you decide to do!

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    Haven't read the replies but we have never paid a sitter, and certainly not one we don't know. Honestly I don't care if people say that's OTT or I'm a helicopter parent I won't ever do it and DH stands firm on it as well.

    Sorry to your DH but I agree with you. I do feel for him though being under pressure from his family.

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    Are teh babysitters through the hotel?

    I imagine they would all be carded/checked?

    To make myself feel comforatble I would probably lken it to dropping the kids at daycare and then picking them up from a carer I hadn't met before...trusting the daycare would only use qualified polce checked employees.

    Your situation would make my stomach churn - I've never been in that situation, but I know others who have left their kids in the care of hotel provided babysitters while they went to dinner...they were only a phone call away.

    I would feel better if all three children were in the same room and there was more than one babysitter for some reason.


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    I think I would feel exactly the same in your situation.

    To me, the biggest part is that Beryl isn't okay with it.

    I understand that your DH would be under massive pressure from the family, and that it would be an uncomfortable situation, but I think in this instance he needs to listen to how upset you are with the situation, and prioritise that over feeling awkward with his family.

    In your shoes I would be asking DH to stay with her, or to do as you've suggested by taking her to dinner and then going back to the room with her.

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    ok to answer a few questions..

    there are 10 kids.

    3 rooms have been booked. 3 kids in each room with a babysitter in each room.

    Agnes is allowed to choose who she is in with.
    They are through the hotel but the hotel say, they just book them through an agency.
    Yes, they would be police checked etc..but I cant see proof of that.
    Agnes only met the other kids one day last week , so she does not know them.

    what am I scared of? what a great question..I have to say its all my personal experience.
    My childhood babysitter, burnt our house down one day. On purpose...
    I am a survivor of child sexual abuse...

    so yes I am very nervous of people around my kids.

    I have not and will not even use daycare. I have a nanny who has only been allowed around the kids without me, after a while of only working with me around.

    Thank you all so much for helping me get this around my head. Your hugs, ears, questions and everything is really helping me.

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    Argh! What a nightmare! Im feeling panicy for you.

    I dont know what to tell you to do, what the dynamic is in your family etc

    I know id tell my dh to suck it up with the pressure and not leave our babies with a stranger! Im an extreme pessimist, didnt that madeline child go missing in a hotel??

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    I'd be getting your DH to speak to the babysitters giving explicit instructions that if she is at all upset to ringq him and he'll go back and get her. If there's other kids she know she might be distracted enough not to be worried. If she's old enough to know how to text and there's 3 babysitters I think I'd feel much more relaxed about it.

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    I have major issues with interferance with my kids and I have not been abused as a child, I can only imagine the stress and torment you are going through....

    Is the dinner at the hotel?? How long is the dinner for? If DH goes to the dinner, can he pop back every 30 mins to check on Agnes?? Have you spoken to Agnes again? Are the other kids boys or girls and around her age??

    How long do you have to stress and worry before this takes place?

    Massive hugs and thoughts to you...

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    the 3 rooms are on 3 different floors...
    so each lot of 3 kids has one babysitter...not 3 all together.

    so floor one has ..jane 8, john 6 and jack 18 months and a babysitter
    floor 2 has george 9, georgina 7 and georgette 4 and a babysitter
    floor 3 has sebastian 5, bastian 3 and Agaby 1 and a babysitter.
    (not real names...lol)

    The restaurant is in the hotel on the top floor.
    yes he can check on her...

    its happening at 5am tomorrow morning, my time.

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    I was just going to comment and hope George, Georgina and Georgette weren't from the same family.

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