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    Quote Originally Posted by WhiteTulips View Post
    My worst was from a "friend" who told me to "stop falling pregnant because you should stop killing all these babies. You should be the one who dies, not innocent babies".

    I've had 2 mc. One when my xdf and his mates assulted me at 22 weeks in 2007 and another earlier this year at 9 weeks from organic causes.

    I'll never ever forget what she said...as if reliving the assault everyday isn't bad enough, I have the echoes of her bitter words, too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WhiteTulips View Post
    My worst was from a "friend" who told me to "stop falling pregnant because you should stop killing all these babies. You should be the one who dies, not innocent babies".

    I've had 2 mc. One when my xdf and his mates assulted me at 22 weeks in 2007 and another earlier this year at 9 weeks from organic causes.

    I'll never ever forget what she said...as if reliving the assault everyday isn't bad enough, I have the echoes of her bitter words, too.

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    Ohh God hunny! That is horrendous!

    SO many hugs for you. That is just cruel.

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    Thank you all.

    I don't talk to the btch anymore, obviously. Last I heard she was alone and miserable.

    It's all still quite raw and I've never told anyone the full story, but I do feel a little lighter with this. Virtual hugs definitly somehow make things nicer too

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    My sister, who I adore and usually isn't emotionally hopeless, asked me when I was going to get "scraped out" (d& c). I said, oh that's a horrible way of putting it (I was trying to be really brave and not let anyone know how much I was struggling with the mc, I even initially refused to call it a mc, stupid stupid pride) and she said it again 2 minutes later.

    It really upset me the insane lack of sensitivity. It still does.

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    The first thing my sister asked me was if I felt guilty. I thought it was an odd thing to ask. I suppose she was trying to understand what I was feeling.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LillyPonds View Post
    Mine wasn't said directly to me but while I was in recovery after having a D&C for a missed misscarriage at 10 weeks 4 days.

    As I said I was lying in recovery after having my D&C when a nurse came in to see if I was in any pain or needed anything. Her name was Sarah.

    It had gone abut an hour or so and I had just been dozing and I hear a conversation between Sarah and 2 other nurses. They were discussing in great detail Sarah's 10 week pregnancy and how she hadn't told her mum yet and that she was planing on giving her mother a mother's day card. She then went on to describe how much amniotic fluid was in the sac etc etc.... She then waltz in and said was I OK???

    No I bl00dy wasn't OK! I complained to managment and got a phone call and apology the next day.
    I'm a bit confused, hope you don't mind. Were they talking about your pregnancy?? Or you overheard them talking about the nurse's own pregnancy? Do you feel they should have been more careful talking about it in case you overheard?

    I have actually been lucky after my miscarriages, I can't remember anyone saying anything particularly bad. I got the whole "well there must have been something wrong with the babies" which didn't help at all, but I understand it was meant well so it didn't upset me as such.

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    Wow, some of these are awful.
    I haven't had anyone say anything awful, a did get the 'something must of been wrong with the baby' and 'you're young, you can try again' etc but i was not offended by these comments as they were said in a nice way and they meant well.
    The worst response to a m/c i got was no response at all. My last m/c was ignored by most people i know, everyone knew but they was no asking how i was, no comments at all - this hurt me a lot. I wish someone would have said something, so that it was at least acknowledged it happened iykwim?

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    Wow, that's awful tulips.

    Just thought of another ... when I told my boss I had to have a d&c she said, right, like an abortion. I was gobsmacked. How could you compare me losing a child that we wanted and someone willingly aborting their baby? What an awful person she is!

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    One was in reply to a thread on here.. to which they said "I believe things happen for a reason". God I hate it when people say that to bad stuff that happens. I replied to the person telling them they were a tool too!!

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    First miscarriage - had a d&c, at the follow up with gp 'oh could you not handle the thought of being a mother?' then I had to explain everything to him again (hello read your notes!!)
    Second miscarriage, was at dating/viability scan and the tech said 'why are you crying? This is only your second m/c - I've seen women who've had a dozen!'
    My boss told me to stop being hormonal and made fun of me for accidentally ticking 'bereavement' instead of 'sick' on my leave form after 2nd m/c 'haha who died?' was what he wanted to know!


 

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