It feels like my heart has been ripped out, with an open, gaping wound left. Unfotunately like every other wound, time may heal it (somewhat) but there will always be a scar.[/QUOTE]
Im very sorry for the loss of your precious baby. You are quite right, there will always be a scar. I think the only "good" that comes out of losing a baby is that you can support and reach out to others who go through the same, you have an understanding of life and compassion that only comes with losing someone you love.
And your baby is your baby, and you are his/her mum, no matter whether they are alive or not. I think that is the reason why there is no word for a woman who has lost a child or baby.
We had a stillborn baby girl 3 months ago and in that time I have been stuck between laughing and crying at just how stupid people can be.
Its very rude (and shocking) but when people start saying stupid things I say "there is no silver lining in a dead baby".
I think it helps people stop and understand what the loss is, and realise that their attempts to smooth it over do not help.
My other favourites include "well this is very common". I say "so is death, but you don't go up to a widow at a funeral and say "oh well, 100% of people die"!