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    keep it nice .. keep it quiet (have a chat, but not a rant .. lol) and see what they have to say .. if there is a reason why it was given to the other little boy, at least you will know why ..

    This happened to me at a gymnastics comp when I was younger - I should have won the overall award (I was never spectacular at any ONE routine, but scored solid average scores so would win overall) - they miscalculated it and awarded it to another girl .. Mum had checked the numbers in her head, questioned it and I was awarded the ribbon etc ... so its certainly worth you asking for clarification.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ready To Run View Post
    Obviously I just don't get it but why shouldn't I say something when I know damn well the person adding it up did it on purpose If we let this go, it is once again saying to DS it's OK to be bullied and it's bloody well is not especially in this town that has made our lives HELL for the last 2 years. So in this instance I will be one of "those" mums and stick up for my DS and I personally couldn't give a damn about what they say and I will have plenty to say back if they say it to my face. Oh and by the way DS is already bullied at school by everyone including my friends child (the one who got the trophy) who it was only at the beginning of the year was choking my child in the playground.
    I think that sucks, your poor ds.if it was me I couldn't stay in a place that made me and my child miserable..I just couldn't . Obviously I don't know your circumstances but is it possible to move or change schools?

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    I would first ask myself what I wanted to achieve by approaching the school, and then what I am likely to achieve by doing it. Personally I don't think going to the school and insisting they correct their mistake will achieve what you really want, and in fact may exacerbate what seems like an already unfortunate set of circumstances.

    In 5 years' time, will it have changed your life or his so significantly that you want to put a whole lot of negative energy into it now?

    As a PP said, take it on the chin and talk it through with your son as one of life's events. By the sounds of it he'll earn plenty of ribbons and trophies in the future

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    I'd definitely complain about it. Yes, the other boy will be upset, but why should your son be the one to miss out? Keeping your mouth shut and doing nothing while you're being treated unfairly is overrated.

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    For a little bit of background I am the sort of person that just keeps quiet to keep the peace. I never complain about anything except when I'm sticking up for my child. He has been bullied so much but the nearest school other than this one is 2 hours away so no changing schools for us. We are here "for now" because of financial reasons. We should be able to leave by the end of the year. He's the kid that goes to the teacher and tells them whats happened - they simply ask the other child, they say no it didn't and then DS gets in trouble for "lying" when I know damn well these kids are doing it. I have seen it with my own eyes, like the day I was driving past at morning tea and DS was being choked in the playground, I pulled over, ran in and yelled at the other kids to get away from DS, went to the teachers who were too wrapped up in drinking coffee and gossiping out the back, her expaination was that the other boy was a prep and he didn't know the school rules yet. Then the teacher aids kid will kick DS in the shins when leaving school in the afternoon and guess what, they don't care I just wish that people who hate DH & I for whatever reason just wouldn't take it out on my child, and taking away an achievement from him because of it is just plain nasty and very bad form.

    Anyway for those who know me IRL they would know this is not something I'm looking forward to doing, in fact I'm very nervous about doing it at all. DH is a different story and I unfortunately have to take the reins here because he's away working. I know in 5 years it probably won't mean much to DS, and like another poster said he'll probably win alot more ribbons/trophies etc...but it means alot now and I don't want DS to think it's OK for somebody to do this. What sort of message does that send. Also I was never going to make a big scene over it - I was simply going to go to the principal, explain the situation and ask that DS be recognised for his achievement.

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    Do it :-)

    A seemingly small win for your son, will mean sooooooo much more to him. It's something he will always remember :-) his mummy stood up
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    Well an update: I spoke with the principal - she was not happy with me at all. She found the "mistake" that was made by the person I thought it was all along, made me feel terrible and now DS1 is getting his trophy next term. I even did it the nice way and suggested that we call it a tie because it wasn't fair on the other little boy - that didn't get me anywhere, she still made me feel bad

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    Perhaps you need to look at another school for your DS


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    Thats horrible im glad he's getting his trophy and pleased you stood up for him (thats our job as mums right?) but it really sucks that the school are so horrible

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    As much as finances are important, they don't begin to compare to the mental health and well being of your child.

    Going by both of your threads, your DS is being given an extremely difficult time at school, as well as you finding it tough in the town.

    If I were in that situation, I'd have to move. I know how much impact schoolyard bullying can have on kids, even well into their adult lives, so with that knowledge I couldn't stay in a place that was damaging my child (or myself) like that.

    Is homeschooling an option? I know there are a couple of hubbers that HS. If it isn't, can you move?

    I hope it all works out for you. It's sounds like a terrible situation to be in.


 

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