Last edited by HOMS; 16-08-2012 at 21:42.
To answer your question HOMS i moved to sydney as a teenager with my parents and grew up (adult years) here so its home now. Another government worker here too!
Oh I can't believe things have progressed so well for you, thats so exciting! I hope your baby making is fun and stress free!
Thanks Disney and Trio. I got my dates mixed up in my head and thought I would be in post recovery from surgery when I have my first cycle of NTNP but I will have one cycle before surgery. I will still be stalking this thread to see how you all go though.
Disney, Yes, we will definitely stay in the same area DH and I both work relatively close by and DH is a volunteer in our local CFA brigade and really wants to stay with the same brigade, so we need to find a house close enough to the fire station.
HOMS congratulations, that is very exciting Best of luck
I am not too concerned about the paid mat leave, but it definitely makes permanency much better! Im just happy that when we finally do have a baby that I will have a job to go back to with no questions asked.
Ohhh, I had forgotten about getting teeth checked before TTC, thanks for the reminder
Yay HOMS! Awesome news! I'm so excited for you! (and incredibly jealous hehe!) Good luck!
I had the TTC talk with DP and we're still pretty much on track to TTC in June next year yay! I said we should plan the US trip for late next year and more than likely I'll either not be pregnant or only a couple of months and ok to travel, after a short lesson on human reproduction DP was ok with this plan. DP is VERY clueless about all things baby, conceiving... and women in general really haha... Turns out he was under the impression that once we start TTC it was pretty much a sure thing that we'd conceive within the time frame of immediately to a couple of weeks haha! I told him it is possible but that conceiving that fast is definitely no where near the norm. We agreed I would stop the pill in June, I had planned to stop a couple months before TTC to let my body normalise but I don't mind this compromise.
So all I've been able to think about the last few days is babies again yay! My best friend from high school had a little girl over the weekend so I'm heading back to my home town this weekend for a cuddle
Just wondering what everyone's plans are with work after baby. How much time off will you have after birth? Anyone going to stop work and be a SAHM? Or going back full time/part time? I'll definitely take a year off after birth but then I'm undecided about returning to work. I've always really wanted to stay home once I had kids until they were school age, but I got a new job earlier this year and I'm really loving it. My options are to stay home or go back to work 2.5 or 3 days per week (this is the minimum feasible at my job). At the moment I'm thinking I'll try going back part time and just see how it goes.
Also how many kids is everyone planning? We want to have 2 or 3.
You will go into baby overload after your cuddles with the newborn! I was overcome with newborn love a few weeks ago it was hard to come down from that!
I am going to have a year off too once bub comes. I'm really conflicted about The whole SAHM thing. I think it would be fantastic but I am a little scared about the lack of adult interaction, I'm also afraid I'll become one of those mothers that completely looses her identity once she has a baby and can do nothing else but talk, live and breath her children. Every Facebook post, every picture, every text every phone call every email is about the baby/child. I've seen some friends become like this and some friends who have kept a part of themselves for them (they can hold a conversation about something other than their children, they can post on facebook about things that arent their child etc ) and I think I would like to do that. Now I'm not sure if you have a choice about this at all or if it makes you and good or bad parent but it's just an observation I've made. So that said I think I would like to go back to work 2 days a week for me time and for adult interaction that doesn't involve baby talk! I say that now but I'm sure once that small bundle of joy comes along I'll become totally obsessed and I will never want to go back to work.
In regards to number of kids, I'd like between 2 and 3. If I could choose what I was going to have I would have 2 girls and a boy or just 2 girls. I couldn't imagine my daughter (if I have one) not having a sister. I am so close with my sister and I couldn't imagine life without her so I would like my daughter to have that. My DH who is very focused on finances way too much sometmes only wants to have 2 because he thinks that's all we can afford to have, but I figure once you have 1 the cost can't be THAT much more per extra kid surely!
Tashee - Thats great about your chat with DP, at least you have a plan I really need to have the TTC talk with DP, I tell him every day that is what I want, and that it must be my turn to have a baby by now, but he is the same as your DP, CLUELESS! He really believes that as soon as i stop the pill that I will be pregnant straight away. Maybe I need him to follow a few TTC diaries on here lol!
At this stage I think that I will go back to work FT after 1st baby, I really love my job, and baby could come to work with me. ALSO, I don't actually enjoy being at home that much, I like to always be doing something, and socialising. Going back to work would also put us in the best financial position possible for when we have bub #2, then I could be a SAHM, or work PT.
I think I will have 10 - 12 months off though.
Definitely want 2 or maybe 3 children, not sure yet (Will see how we go with 1 first! although definitely want more than 1)
Disney - I really am not fussed when baby would be due! now that I think about it, preferably not Dec or Jan, but i would be totally happy even if it was.
I would REALLY love to hear your 'crazy reasoning' LOL
I totally hear your fear about becoming one of those mothers that completely looses her identity once she has a baby and can do nothing else but talk, live and breathe her children. I know a few people like that, but I also know a few SAHM's who have not become that.
I have been so clucky over the past few weeks! found out 2 good friends are pregnant, and another 2 friends both had baby boys in the same hospital on the same day!!!!!
Lots of our friends and family are starting to bug us about when we will have children, I just keep saying 'not yet' but deep down thinking 'hopefully REALLY soon' I don't really want too many people to know when we do start trying, because i think the pressure would be too much.
Yep would be a Feb baby if we conceive right away. I don't mind what time of year baby is born... just the sooner after starting to TTC the better haha! I reckon it might be more comfortable having the end of pregnancy in winter though, I hate the heat in summer! But I'm really happy whenever, I don't think we'll get much choice really
Yeah I'm so torn about returning to work v staying home too, it's probably too hard to make a sure decision before it's all happening. Before I started giving it serious thought this year I've always been absolutely 100% on being a SAHM this is mainly due to losing my own mum at a young age. She was only 30 and I was 5 (my brother was 3 and my sister only 10 months), if the same thing happens to me I'd much rather have spent time with my children than working and also from my future kids point of view they'll have more to remember, I have probably only about a dozen memories of my mum and I treasure all of them, I always wonder whether if she didn't stay home I would have half that or less. Aaaah now that I have written this I actually think it is quite likely I'll change my mind back to staying home. I think I might just be in a honeymoon phase with my job and not wanting to leave, also at the moment it would be a squeeze financially but by the time we have a baby DP will be more senior and on more $$ so that's a bit hard to judge at the moment.
I also want to have my kids fairly close together (am thinking 18 months to 2 years gap) so that's another thing in support of staying home. Have you thought about the gap you want between babies?
I'm the one worried about finances and leaning more toward 2 in our relationship, DP definitely wants 3. Our current deal is that if we don't have a boy and girl after 2 we'll go for a third... But I know I'd totally give in and have 3 either way
I think you're right, 3 kids can't be that much more expensive than 2. The main thing I think/worry about is needing a bigger house, but I don't think it's a big deal for kids to share while they're young.
MrsLA - It's great you'll be able to take baby to work with you! Sounds like it will be perfect for you! We have lots of friends and family bug us about babies too especially MIL and my sister, it's just about the first thing they mention whenever we see either of them! We won't tell anyone when we are TTC, I don't want the pressure of other people knowing and I like to think it will be more of a surprise for everyone when share the news
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