i have a gorgeous 13 month old daughter who is very bright and happy and affectionate ... but... she has also always been a bit of a crier - ok so she's a total crier but only with me. I feel like a terrible mother and whilst I know she loves me more than anything I fear that I've somehow taught her that crying gets the response from me she wants.
Can anyone please help me find a way to 'discipline'/ redirect her behavior so that I'm getting more positive behavior from her. She has certainly improved as she's got older. We spend a lot of time together and play and read and sing a lot. She is starting to develop some words which has also helped but people are starting to comment that I am too soft on her and that I am rewarding everything she does.
i don't want to smack her and I want to encourage her rather than constantly saying no or being negative however I want her to know her boundaries and to grow feeling guided and secure. I dont want to spoil her by being too soft nor damage her by being too harsh.
Some examples of her behaviour include hitting her own face when I tell her off, when I say no to her for throwing her food off high hair she looks me straight in the eye and does more. She cries if she doesn't get her way and bangs her head or collapses on the floor. Stiffens her body and doesn't let me out her in her car seat.
Yesterday she was so worked up she was hyperventilating which resulting with me on tears also!
This behaviour doesn't happen all day everyday but if she wants something and doesn't get it it's all on!
Sounds like tantrums but how to curb them in a 1 year old? What am I doing wrong?