The previous thoughts on why some partnered parents have it as hard as single parents got me thinking. The one thing that really worries me is what happens if I die.
If I die my two children would be effectively orphaned. They have no other relatives in Australia, because I'm British. I suspect they would end up in temporary foster care for some time, and then would be farmed off to some member of my family who I barely know, or somebody I do know and really don't like, in another country. There are good reasons why I live so far from my family but there's nothing I can do to stop them gaining custody of my children in the event of my death. It's possible that they would be separated, as they have different biological fathers.
You can't 'leave' children in a will. If there is no father, no partner, no other parent, then a court will always have the final say on where they go. Your written wishes will be taken into consideration, but there is no possibility for peace of mind when you are a lone parent with no secure back up. The thought that they would be completely alone keeps me awake at night sometimes. I make them things, write them notes, take photographs, so that there is evidence of our lovely and fortunate life. Because I have no control over what might be said to them about their origins and about me, if I were not here.