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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    In regards to my earlier comments about not understand people complaining about needing a c section: what do you think you missed out on most? The agony of labour? The tearing of your vag? Light blader leakage? Raising a child with special needs because the birth didn't go as planned?

    I'm not trying to be a b1tch here. Many have said they didn't fight their ob enough when he said C Section. I know it's your body, I just don't think you know better than a trained medical professional.

    For those who said they weren't mentally prepared for a CS, 30% of births in hospitals are CS, higher in private hospitals. Shouldn't that have been something considered in advance?

    People kept asking me when I was pregnant what my birth plan was, and I would answer to get the baby out. I bonded with her just fine, and I certainly felt endorphins when I saw her for the first time. They've actually never stopped since I saw her.

    I'm not belittling your feelings, as you feel them so they are very real to you. I'm just pointing out a different point of view.

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    I've only had a scheduled csec (bub was breech) and it was easy peasy. Planned, no pain (excellent painkillers!), I didn't have to do any housework for 6 weeks. In the hospital I overheard two new mums comparing their natural births and how painful and horrible they were. I felt bad for them, when my bubs birth was a breeze.

    I don't feel robbed at all
    Now ( I did for about a week after I found out I had to have a csec, then I got over it).

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Can you elaborate?

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    I think it depends. My labour was 36 hours, I stopped breathing for a short time shortly before she was born, I was pushing for 2 1/2 hours, I have an anal prolapse now which still (2 yrs later) causes immense pain, and I had a 2nd degree episiotomy which took 2 weeks to heal. It felt infected, it was awful. I couldn't sit comfortably, and going to the bathroom was hell.

    IMO, a c-sec (planned) would've been "easier". I'd rather heal my lower belly than my lady parts. But I've never had a CS so can't say which is easier.

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    When people say they had no pain after a c/s and could walk fine, did you need any painkillers? Or you just got straight up and could do things with ease without any painkillers?

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    Quote Originally Posted by missie_mack View Post
    I find it really sad that people cannot empathise with anothers situation or think that one way is better. I think for the majority of people a VB is optimal for the health and wellbeing. That said CS's are sometimes needed. Needing a CS doesn't make the recovery easier, unfortunately. I've had 2 csections. One was a crash CS where I was lucky to come out with my life and the other was a face presentation after being in established labour and having it stop, undialate and restart again hours later. Whilst for some they think I should just be grateful and appreciative there are complications that are caused by having the csection, some lifelong. Respiratory issues are more prominent and severe in csection babies, based on medical studies. I came out with severe adhesions that took hours upon hours to undo during my second csection which resulted in no skin to skin contact until my second child was several hours old. My adhesions from my first csection seen my bladder adhered to my uterus which left me with considerable pain, particularly when I had my AF. With my first it impacted my breastfeeding journey. The issues with my second scar are a daily issue, even now a year later. I have been told when I am finished having children that I can have a medicare funded tummy tuck. I also have some damage to my stomach muscles due to the way they were cut and healed after my second csection. These issues wouldn't have occured had I been fortunate enough to VB. Whilst I am grateful that I have my children I would also be grateful not to have these issues.
    Thank you for sharing your story.

    I tried and then read another post and had to delete - still too raw.

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    Lilly i felt discomfort for the first day after and i was on painkillers. it was like a hot sorta feeling? hard to explain. i was more dizzy lightheaded than in pain. was only on pain killers the first day or so. it was hard to get up first time but more cause i felt so lightheaded and i thought it would hurt. it felt like a hot pulling feeling the first few times getting up and if i twisted that made me wince a little for the first day or two only.
    i came home and did everything like normal with no pain. maybe a little discomfort but no real pain.
    nowhere near as bad as the pain I've been in after all 3 of my vbs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    Can you elaborate?
    You have completely minimised both how hard c/s are (major surgery, stitches, agony when pooing, etc etc) and blamed people by saying it's their fault it was such a shock bc given the c/s rate we should have known... so following that idea should women that have bad vb's just be quiet bc everyone knows how much they hurt and that you tear?

    I also think it's both dangerous and near sighted to just say trust the med pros. Mine completely botched my first c/s to the point I really should of sued them, that's how bad it was.

    this isn't a competition. A number of us have said we feel robbed. I feel robbed. Please allow people to feel how they want to.

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    I feel like I failed as a woman. I feel like I should've tried harder. I feel let down by the midwives who weren't supportive of me and didn't help me through my labour pains and in fact got made to feel like rubbish by one who made out that I was weak and the pains shouldn't be as bad as I was expressing they were (turned out my baby was posterier which is why the pains were bad). In the end because I wasn't getting any support, I felt like I couldn't cope. I asked for an epidural which spiralled the interventions into an eventual C-section. I feel upset because I now have a massive fight ahead of me to naturally birth any future babies due to my previous c-section.

    EVERYONE has the right to feel how they do about their birth. Every birth experience is different. You can tell just by the replies here....

    Medical professionals? You think they always have your best interest at heart? How naive.

    For me, if I am unable to birth naturally with any of my kids, I will forever have a feeling of having missed out. I don't care if that's not how others feel. We all have different emotional attachments to different parts of life. I am offended by the inference that I'm ridiculous for that yearning.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily of the Nile View Post
    When people say they had no pain after a c/s and could walk fine, did you need any painkillers? Or you just got straight up and could do things with ease without any painkillers?
    I only had pain relief the day after the c-section but after that I didn't need antsy thing else, maybe the odd panadol. My recovery was way easier then what I was expecting.

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