I have re read your posts and I still get the same message from them as I did the first time. Stop complaining, it's not a big thing, you had a healthy baby and it's your fault you weren't prepared. But how can someone prepare themselves to expect feeling the surgery?
Blissed - no one is making c/s ugly. My 2nd c/s despite not being what I wanted was reasonably pleasant. great staff, good healing no feeling it, retained membranes having external cotton stitches that were literally ripped out like my first. When I look back I see it as a pretty good birth.
But the fact my first was terrible doesn't mean I'm making c/s in general, ugly. THAT birth was ugly. c/s can and often are, a wonderful birth with no complications and a happy mum. I have zero issue with elective c/s. But that doesn't mean I can't say my first was hell...
dont worry Del, i always get shut down when i try to talk about my birth trauma too.
p.s two c section births here, and 2 special needs children.
Last edited by Zombie_eyes; 15-06-2012 at 15:29.
Elective c-sections are only if there is a potential risk to you and/or bubs with a vaginal birth.
To be honest, I think the term "elective cesarean" is wrong. I believe every cesarean done for medical reasons is an "unexpected cesarean" rather than an "elective" one.
This is what I tell people when they ask what kind of birth i had. I had an unexpected cesarean at 35 weeks, which is different from an emergency cesrean.
I was keen to do a vaginal birth. Even though my pregnancy was full of hurdles and the OB kept pushing me for a cesarean, I kept insisting I wanted a vaginal birth.
But then at 31 weeks something unexpected happened. I got a rare pregnancy related illness that put DS at a 75% still born risk.
I was sent home, but my LFT's kept rising and I was admitted at 32 weeks.
They did scans 3 times a day and all day and night i had to write down when DS was active and not. It was terrifying. I was too scared to fall asleep as I was worried that I would wake up and DS would have died while I was sleeping.
They tried to get me to 37 weeks, but his movements began to slow down so they booked a cesarean at 35 +6. I had 2 days to prepare myself.
The anesthetist came to my bed and I had a long talk with him about the different types of anesthetics available.
The OB (who is the best one around and usually only works with private patients) dropped by to tell me I had changed doctors and I now was his patient and he spoke to me in details about what the cesarean risks are, what happens throughout the process, the recovery, etc.
I was very happy with all the info I received and I felt more at ease with the cesrean. Yes I was still very very sad that I couldn't have the ultimate birth I was hoping for. I could've still asked to be induced, but I knew the risks and it would have been outright stupid and selfish to put DS at such a risk, just because I wanted to push my body to its ultimate performance.
So again, my cesarean wasn't elective. It wasn't really planned either. It was unexpected at the least.
I do feel like I have missed out, but on the other hand I don't think I could have had a more positive cesarean experience.
So yeah, to each their own. I find attacking people on their birthing choice a bit senseless. Choices have been made based on medical conditions of bubs and mums at the time. Lots of mums are lucky to be young, fit and healthy and have natural births and some mums and/or bubs aren't that healthy and need an unexpected cesarean.
The only thing I don't understand is why someone would have a cesarean when there is no health risk in any way. A lot of mums recover quickly and well after a cesarean, but not everyone is that lucky. When someone chooses a cesarean for no apparent reason other than "they just can", they need to realize that recovery isn't always swift and painless.
Also, for those who say it is major abdominal surgery, I find that a bit out there to be honest I had my appendix removed in February with keyhole surgery and recovery was much much slower than and the pain was much worse than after my cesarean
and this is not a shot at electives, just going to put that out there. Just that I don't consider mine one
Blissed - no one is making csections ugly. But my csection was. It was my experience and I make no apologies for sharing it.
Mine was horrible too, why is that bad? To speak the truth. To be honest my VB was horrible too - all my births have been horrible. Why is that not allowed?? When I had my last baby - after complications started to present. One of the midwives said "beebs, some women are born to have lots and lots of babies, you clearly aren't one of them, I think you and your husband should talk about permanent contraception", I ****ed myself laughing. She was right though. Some people have great births -some don't.
I think a caesarean involves nil effort on the behalf of the mother so the actual baby-removal part is not anywhere near as difficult IMO.
That said, I do think pain post-op on a standard caesarean will be a bit worse than the pain of a standard vaginal birth. Obviously a physically traumatic vb will be different.
I have had a caesarean and have never experienced labour. It will not be something I will willingly have again.
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