Firstly, can I please stress with all my heart that I mean no offence by my question. I have a few friends who are not like BFF's but you know, just friends who I am particularly asking about. I seem to be (probably because I'm older than them), a person who they like to talk to about the difficulties they are experiencing in conceiving - one has been trying to fall pregnant for several years. I read the thread about being asked "Do you have kids" and I see that it's a question that understandably upsets many ladies who are on a conception journey. I would like some advice on how I should respond when I'm told by someone that they have been trying for a long time. In the past I've always just tried to speak from the heart, to sympathise, but with sincerity and to be positive and hopeful for them, but mostly to be a listening ear. Now I feel like I may not be saying the right things. Would it perhaps be most appropriate to give them a hug (they're huggy people) and just say that I have my fingers crossed for them or I'm thinking of them, or maybe that I hope they have success soon. It's hard, because I really do care about them and I really do hope they fall pregnant, I even get really upset for them when they tell me. Is there a "right" thing to say? I don't want them to go away thinking "Geez, that's the last time I tell her anything...". Any advice?