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    I tend to use the term when people reside together. But there is no art to the term boyfriend or partner, so it could really mean anything. When my partner and I moved in together, we probably moved to that term, even though our didn't share money as such (bought a house, but paid 50/50 and kept separate accounts) or have children.

    As opposed to de facto which is defined.

    I quite like the term partner. It doesn't come with the cultural baggage of husband. I cringe when people refer to my partner has my husband, which is often assumed now that we have a child.

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    nah I personally hate that word. He was my boyfriend until he was my fiance. Now he is my husband.

    We were living together and sharing finances after 3mths and got engaged aftr 6yrs.

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    For me the term partner comes into play when people live together or on the rare occassion when they live apart but have significant financial ties eg may have purchased an investment property together or one may rely on the other for some other financial reason.

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    Living together, sharing finances, etc etc. I would even be so bold as to say 12 months minimum. Its actually a pet hate of mine people saying 'my partner' and theyve been together like 6 weeks. No he/she is your boyfriend/girlfriend or someone you're dating after 6 weeks not your partner

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    DP and I use partner because to say girlfriend sounds like I'm a 12 year old school girl

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    I don't like the term "partner" but I use it. We've been engaged for over 6 years, we will get married one day if for no other reason so that I can stop saying "partner". I don't like saying "fiance" for some reason either. I didn't start calling DF my partner until we were well and truly moved in together. He was keener than I and started using it only a few weeks/months into the relationship. I liked the novelty of having a "boyfriend" as I was separated from a very unhappy marriage and it felt so fresh and new. (Yes I had a husband and a boyfriend for a while!! )

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlissedOut View Post
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    From the first date right?

    I agree with PPs. Once you're living together and sharing finances etc...
    Here I thought it was when our eyes met... :P

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    I say it, or girlfriend, depending on the context.

    When talking to the real estate agent about signing the lease? It was partner.

    When introducing M to an old friend of mine? Girlfriend. When being introduced to her boss? I'm her partner.

    I don't like girlfriend though. It seems too school girl. I agree a partnership is forged through financial commitments together and sharing life goals and plans. M became my partner in conversation after we first made our TTC plans and starting saving our money together. We've since bought a car, signed a lease and opened a savings account for our baby plans together.

    ETA: if we were allowed to marry, I think we'd be engaged by now.
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    IMO "partner" is one step above girlfriend/boyfriend and a step below fiancee.

    I started calling DH my partner when we were living together and planning a life together. Before that he was just my shag haha.

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    I think if you are always at each others places (or living together) and see each other most days, you are partners.

    If you only see someone once or twice a week, then it's boy/girl friend.

    I agree with LH. Partner is in-between BF and Fiancée/DH. A partner isn't someone you've only been seeing for 5 minutes.

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