My DD1 is 3 years old and has never been great at independent play but ever since DD2 was born earlier in the year DD1 has become a lot more demanding and as much as I love her, it's really starting to do my head in!
She'll just follow me around the house all day asking "will you play with me?", to the point now that it's starting to frustrate me (I feel so bad for writing that!). Even if I sit down and play with her or do crafts, as soon as we are finished, she's back to asking me to play.
Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy playing with her. I just spent the last hour while DD2 was sleeping to help make DD1 a princess castle out of a cardboard box. She happily played with her dolls in there as long as i gave her my full attention and watched her play and talked to her about what she was doing but now that I have had to get DD2 out of bed and focus on her DD1 is asking me to play again.
I arrange play dates for her weekly, she'll have kids over all afternoon for a play but as soon as they have left she's back to following me around begging to play.
She goes to kindy once a week and loves it, she also has 3 other activities she attends each week but she really craves one-on-one play with people and I feel like I'm failing her by constantly having to say no because she literally asks every 5 minutes.
As soon as people come to visit she will drag them into her room to play and sometimes gets upset if they try to come out. It's been like this even before DD2 was born.
Is this normal behaviour? She's reluctantly playing on her own now, but only after I got a bit cross and told her that sometimes she needs to try and okay on her own if I need to do other things.
The only way I can seem to manage it at the moment is play as much as I can, and then try to involve her in daily tasks like putting washing away together, unshackling dishwasher, helping make lunch....but she loses interest half way through and just wants me to 'play' with her.
Am I being too harsh? I feel like I am. Am I expecting too much for her to be able to spend a little time on her own? She has a HUGE imagination and comes up with all sorts of games and stories but she refuses to play on her own. I don't know if that's normal?