whitetulips. hugs to you.
It is a tough age because of the communication issues and the frustration it causes them.
Even though i know all the things you are meant to do my daughter still has massive tantrums and sometimes i think to myself i must be doing something wrong. I have come to the conclusion that all I can do as a parent is accept that kids aren't capable of alot of control at a young age, but i still have a responsiblity to teach her what is acceptable and what isnt…and if i can somehow do that without getting angry or upset then i am doing well.
Good on you for being so honest about your situation and reaching out for advice, sometimes it feels like i am the only parent with a young child that misbehaves.
You are not alone and you are doing an awesome job…with time it will get better, just hang in there.