This is what my 9 year old son asked me today After dh pulled him out of bed and put him on the cold tiles. Because he didn't get out of bed right away when asked.
My dh seems to be incapable of empathy He hates when the kids cry and yells at them to stop. "here we go again with the water works" is something he says daily. He tells them to shut up and never listens to what they say.
This is what his parentS are like and he told me he wouldn't be the same but he is.
If you were to ask him about it he would say its the kids fault he has to yell because they won't do as they are told. Or it's my fault because I undermine him. Meaning I stand up for my kids when he's being a bully.