I know how you feel OP. My ex was terrible. He not only expected me to do everything, but then had a whinge if I didnt do it the way he wanted me to. Stop work actions did nothing. I once left the dishes for 3 weeks waiting for him to do them. The pile grew huge and then grew mould and still nothing. Yet he complained every day for those three weeks about how gross the kitchen looked and how he had no dishes. I caved in the end because it made me feel sick to look at it. I also did all the yard work as well. I wondered when I left him how he would survive and when I moved out I got my answer.........He moved in with his mother who was very happy to wait on him hand and foot.
This was my song for him