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    Default 13 months old and STILL having sleeping issues!

    Hi all
    My DD is 13 months old and is STILL having sleeping issues. She goes down for her day naps well and sleeps beautifully. However, night time is where the struggles start! I do everything the same but she cries and cries. I don't believe in controlled crying so I pick her up when she's distressed (not just grizzling). I was wondering whether she could be scared of the dark? At what age do toddlers start fearing the dark? She still wakes 4-5 hourly for overnight bottles (which I'm desperately trying to cut out).
    Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated! Thank you!

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    My ds is 14 months we have big sleep issues but I don't think its due to the dark (he is still bf so wakes to comfort suck...every 3 hrs!) as he has a night light on. However I do think he is scared of the dark. The other night he opened the sliding door to the garage and got half way in and started going crazy as it was so dark in there. Maybe try a night light for a bit and see if that helps?

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    I have no advice but I'm subbing for ideas. I have a 14 month old who wakes 2-3 hourly.

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    You didn't mention if bubs goes to bed same time each night and if you have a routine before bed. We try and make sure ours goes down at 7.30 each night after dinner, bath, play, bottle, cuddles and 2-3 books.
    Also how much sleep is bubs having during the day? I find if mine has between 2-3 hours she sleeps better than if she has less or much more than this.
    As for night feeds if using a bottle just slowly decrease amount in bottle during night feeds.

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    HI LJMSMum

    I feel for you.....I have 16mth boy/girls twins and they are shocking sleepers STILL! My DD was still having bottles overnight up until about 14 mths roughly....I started to gradually dilute it with water, until now she only has water during the night. She is also eating much more during the day. She still wakes overnight, so it didn't solve all my sleep issues, but I think it did help. It was a very gradual process, as I similarly don't beleive in CC.

    The only other thing I have done is co-sleep....I have her cot with the side-rail off and bumped up against my bed. I think she likes company, but it is much easier for me to roll over and pat her, or whatever. Much better getting in and out of my bed and going in to her. I'm now in the process of putting the side-rail back up and encouraging her to stay in her own cot.

    I don't have any advice, because I'm in the same boat I'm sorry. Chronic sleep deprivation is the absolute pits, especially when you don't know when it is going to get better. Good luck, I hope someone has just the answer for you.

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    My 12 mth old still wakes 4 hourly and breastfeeds. You are not alone

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    I'm having problems with my15month old son as well. DS1 was a good sleeper. Loved his blanky, used a dummy until 10 months when he self weened and was comforted by a bottle but self settled amazingly. Nothing but the breast will comfort DS2. I feel like we are doing the same things with DS2 but he wants to be breast feed 1-4 times throughout the night and will only sleep for a max of an hour during the day unless I hold him while he sleeps.
    My DH wants me to be tougher. He even said he considers it a failure of "us" as parents (I know he means me) that he can't self settle at 15 months. I am considering the Baby Dream Guide. A friend has had amazing success with it. It's all about providing a stable consistent environment for your child so they feel secure and aware of what is happening in their day to reduce stress and help them sleep. My friend is much better at routine than me though.

    Your defiantly not alone, and reading this thread helps me feel that I am also not alone.
    Really wish he could self settle though and find comfort in something other than my breast.

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    My youngest was up every two hours till he was 18 months old. I ended up buying him a single bed, and everytime he'd wake up I'd lie with him till he fell asleep so at least he'd be in his own room/bed. I gradually moved from the bed to the doorway over the next few weeks and he is a much much better sleeper now. It worked well for us and I SO understand what it's like to have a terrible sleeper, me and DP had tried everything you could think of up to that point!
    Best of luck xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by spunkles View Post
    My youngest was up every two hours till he was 18 months old. I ended up buying him a single bed, and everytime he'd wake up I'd lie with him till he fell asleep so at least he'd be in his own room/bed. I gradually moved from the bed to the doorway over the next few weeks and he is a much much better sleeper now. It worked well for us and I SO understand what it's like to have a terrible sleeper, me and DP had tried everything you could think of up to that point!
    Best of luck xx
    It is so funny that you say that. At the time that my eldest got the hang of self settling we had him sleeping on a double mattress in his own room as we had always co-slept and I was 8 months pregnant so I didn't feel confident lowering him into a cot. So that is something we did different. I think I will be getting a mattress in the boys room this week and see how it goes for DS2.
    Thank you for the idea.

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    OP talk to a sleep specialist they might be able to offer simple but 'no-cry' solutions for a you and bub. When my second baby was 12 months old we were getting up a couple of times a night to him and it really wasn't working. We didn't seek specialized help, we simply did the go back to sleep you aren't getting a feed, and yes the first night he did cry for 10-15 minutes, I hated that and my DH soothes and patted him, next night same scenario, less crying minutes and then third night everyone got a sleep thru and we have ever since. For the 30 minutes in total he cried and the two hard nights of sorry baby no milk it was worth the months and months of sleep full nights after.
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