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    Total mental health breakdown where I'm no longer a functioning person.

    I'd do anything to get them back.

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    If i had a severe mental illness, and it was harming them. I would leave them with their daddy and leave and go get help in hospital. Work as hard as i could on recovering and get back to them asap.

    Other than that, i cant think of anything. Being an addict does not apply to me, i would never be in that position ever. (i dont say that with judgment)

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    I understand that things get extremely tough at times as a parent. I, myself, in no way think of myself as a perfect parent.

    I've had my share of tough times with parenting an extremely difficult teen. One who's headstrong 17 year old has moved out of home and is doing a great job of studying/working and supporting himself..... Even then though, if he wanted to come home, he knows the door is open and we are waiting with open arms.

    When my children are small and so reliant on me, only death or serious illness could keep me from being their primary care giver.

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    Mental illness
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    Addiction that meant being unable to provide
    Death

    There would be many reasons. I've seen kids live with abuse and neglect. I've been the one to make reports that contribute to the removal of children. I've seen some families where one child has a disability that the parents are unable to cope with so that child is placed into care while the other children remain with the parents.

    Some parents cannot handle kids with ADHD, Autism or other things that are invisible but take a lot of physical and emotional energy and a particular type of parenting. Is it better for kids to stay in an environment that is not equipped for their needs, or be with someone who can?

    That's just what I can think of/have seen.

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    If i had a severe mental illness, and it was harming them. I would leave them with their daddy and leave and go get help in hospital. Work as hard as i could on recovering and get back to them asap.

    Other than that, i cant think of anything. Being an addict does not apply to me, i would never be in that position ever. (i dont say that with judgment)
    Agree 100% with everything in this post.

    One of the mums in DD1's class last year had a severe mental breakdown and her son was cared for by his wondeful dad and the school community while she got the help she needed. apart from her stay in hospital her son was always there. This is what I'd hope for if it ever came to this.

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    A few things. Extreme poverty, addiction, mental issues, disability.

    There would be a lot of factors involved so there isn't a simple answer in this hypothetical of how I would try and get her back.

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    Please define what you mean by "give up your kids". Maybe then I will answer.

    Things aren't always what they seem from the outside .

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    Death.

    Or in some apocalyptic movie like scenario, give them up to save them from a meteor or tidal wave.

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    If my partnership with MOTH broke down, and I was compleatly down and out I would certainly give up my kids so that they didn't suffer.

    I would also consider letting MOTH take them, if in the same above senario, he could care for them better than I can, or I'd let MOTH take them if I got work say in WA in the mines in order to sort stuff out. My kids have a very well established extended family in Vic and if MOTH was based there then Id have to seriously consider leaving them with him.

    I do know of a couple who happily raised two very balanced kids where he took the son and she took the daughter. They had each child alternate weekends, the kids attended the same school etc.

    I don't think there's a simple answer, and I also know that people who are depressed, have depression or another MI do not think in a neural typical fashion, so we need to remember that their decisions won't always be what others would call sensible.

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    nothing. we are a family and will get through any challenges together, relying on our love and trust for each other.

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