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    Quote Originally Posted by shelle65 View Post
    Holy craperoni the judgment in this thread is unbelievable! Mums have lives. They have things to do, places to be. Kids are messy. If you want to spend half your life changing your kids' clothes and washing then good for you, but seriously, if you actually notice a child in dirty clothes and have some sort of negative thought - GET A LIFE!!
    Yep... I think it's one thing to discuss our own standards, but judging others for theirs? Really?

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    Girl X, we just returned home from a bbq. My son is 6. He spent most of the afternoon playing soccer. He WAS wearing pristinely clean jeans and long sleeve shirt when we left.

    Now, his knees are covered in grass stains and dirt. He ate chocolate cake (a rare treat I should add before the food tyrants get to me) and his top is now covered in choc stains. No, he won't wear a bib lol.

    I refuse to keep him still and inside when he is so active and healthy just because a few people think dirty kids ae neglected, although I do think it's equally ignorant to assume that kids who come across as neat never get messy and never go outside, get covered in paint, make mud cakes and all the other fun stuff.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Girl X View Post
    I have a question. And I know it's going to sound like a really passive aggressive one, so I will preface this by saying I really really REALLY promise it isn't!

    Deep breath... I don't understand how kids are getting that dirty all the time?

    Erm... By that I mean, DD very rarely spills any food on herself. She did when she was about 6-15mths (ish) and then we always put a bib on her. So even then it hardly ever got on to her clothes - just the bib. And since then, she doesn't really spill anything.

    If I give her something like spaghetti for dinner then it will be messy, but I would then put a bib on her, or strip her off. During the day she doesn't spill anything like fruit, toast, sandwiches, etc.

    Sometimes she might spill a little baby cino on herself, but it's only minor, and a wipe gets rid of it straight away. (And I do wipe it, as I don't want it to stain).

    She can do what she likes in the park, or at playgroup. If it's rainy/ muddy she wears gumboots and a coat, but she still doesn't get that messy/ dirty.

    I'm not trying to make out she's perfect, or anything like that. But some people are saying how impossible it is to keep kids clean, and how they feel sorry for kids who are clean/ nicely dressed as they don't get a chance to play.

    Well, DD does play lots. She just doesn't get THAT messy. I'm just not understanding...?

    Really, no ill intent meant with this post! Just trying to understand.
    I wishi knew how my dd gets "that" messy too ... My ds is always clean, he jumps in puddles and does all the same things she does he still ends up relatively clean while She looks like she has been rolling in dirt!!!

    Dd is 2 1/2 won't wear bibs - she isn't even that bad with food it's weird she just seems to be a dirt magnet but you know what ... I love her exactly that way xxx

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    Quote Originally Posted by Benji View Post
    Girl X, we just returned home from a bbq. My son is 6. He spent most of the afternoon playing soccer. He WAS wearing pristinely clean jeans and long sleeve shirt when we left.

    Now, his knees are covered in grass stains and dirt. He ate chocolate cake (a rare treat I should add before the food tyrants get to me) and his top is now covered in choc stains. No, he won't wear a bib lol.

    I refuse to keep him still and inside when he is so active and healthy just because a few people think dirty kids ae neglected, although I do think it's equally ignorant to assume that kids who come across as neat never get messy and never go outside, get covered in paint, make mud cakes and all the other fun stuff.
    Chocolate cake AND no bib on a 6yr old??!! Shocking... veeerry shocking...

    Definitely agree that no kids should be kept from playing/ having fun. And likewise, just because a kid isn't covered in dirt doesn't mean they are no fun or not allowed to play either.

    It seems from what people are saying that some kids are just naturally 'cleaner' or 'messier' than others.

    Also, we all have our own thresholds for what we find okay cleanliness wise. I find food/ snot on kids faces to be a bit gross (if it's just left there for periods of time), but that's just me. I'm sure there are heaps of things I do that other people think are really gross. Like have a nappy bin! I know for a fact that there have been threads about how terrible they are!

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    DS was quite a neat baby and toddler.

    Kid....zomg.... The mess is unbelievable. UNBELIEVABLE!!!!!

    I have given up trying to get him to stay neat, he just has too much fun!

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    If my children are out and get really dirty, they've had fun. I wipe their hands and faces, but I rarely take spare clothes when I'm out.

    Who cares. They're not neglected. My children would have to be covered from head to toe in dirt for me to change them before going out in public, or a huge amount of food stains.

    I hardly notice other kids when I'm at the shops to inspect their clothes. I don't care what other people think either.

    The only thing I hate is when kids have green snotty noses and are near my kids at the park!

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    Haven't read all the replies.

    Generally I would think meh they may have been picked up from DC/pre school like that (my DS comes home from pre school with paint on his clothes, dirt marks up his pants). Kids get dirty and sometimes for lots of reasons they have dirty clothes. The carer has not noticed before leaving, they were eating something while out etc. Having a pristine child alone,doesn't make you a good or bad parent.

    I do feel sad for kids that are obviously being neglected though. There a little girl at DD's school who's uniforms are purid, and I'm not exaggerating. Her dress is BLACK, and it isn't from a lunchtime of playing. Her hair is oily and dirty, she has nits and it looks like her uniform hasn't been washed for literally a month, if not more. Poor child

    That's child neglect plain and simple and is totally different to a child with a tomato sauce stain from a pie at the park.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Haven't read all the replies.

    Generally I would think meh they may have been picked up from DC/pre school like that (my DS comes home from pre school with paint on his clothes, dirt marks up his pants). Kids get dirty and sometimes for lots of reasons they have dirty clothes. The carer has not noticed before leaving, they were eating something while out etc. Having a pristine child alone,doesn't make you a good or bad parent.

    I do feel sad for kids that are obviously being neglected though. There a little girl at DD's school who's uniforms are purid, and I'm not exaggerating. Her dress is BLACK, and it isn't from a lunchtime of playing. Her hair is oily and dirty, she has nits and it looks like her uniform hasn't been washed for literally a month, if not more. Poor child

    That's child neglect plain and simple and is totally different to a child with a tomato sauce stain from a pie at the park.
    Totally agree. There are kids in my class who come to school in the same clothes and have obviously been sleeping in them. That's why I don't care what other people think. My children are bathed everyday and have clean clothes and pjs everyday.

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    My four boys just love to get dirty- just their rough and tumble nature I guess, I already go through about 8 outfits a day with them, so I refuse to do anymore, if they get grubby - then tough luck. They don't care, so why should I? Any parent who judges on that obviously has wayyy to much time on their hands and should probably get back to looking after their own children!

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    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    Well you could have climbed in your judgey pants when my DS was younger. He had quite bad eczema and one of the triggers was being too warm. A GP, my MCHN and a paed at the Children's Hospital all agreed that even on quite cold days, all he needed was a singlet and long sleeve t-shirt. I would get snooty comments all the time and loved turning around and telling people that their opinion was far more important than 3 medical professionals.


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    And you are obviously not dealing with a child with sensory processing disorders - you might want to dress them a certain way - but if they don't want to there is nothing, really nothing you can do about it. DS 2 won't wear wool, or anything with a hood, or scarves or beanies, it has been as low as -5 in the mornings here. It is what it is.

    Also - my kids are just messy, messy, I wash their pjs every day and they usually need a change of clothes at some point - but I draw the line at that - that is 12 outfits a day! After that if they are dirty - which they usually are it's just tough luck. Anyone who judges my kids on that needs to probably focus on their kids and worry less about other peoples children!


 

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