Girl X, we just returned home from a bbq. My son is 6. He spent most of the afternoon playing soccer. He WAS wearing pristinely clean jeans and long sleeve shirt when we left.
Now, his knees are covered in grass stains and dirt. He ate chocolate cake (a rare treat I should add before the food tyrants get to me) and his top is now covered in choc stains. No, he won't wear a bib lol.
I refuse to keep him still and inside when he is so active and healthy just because a few people think dirty kids ae neglected, although I do think it's equally ignorant to assume that kids who come across as neat never get messy and never go outside, get covered in paint, make mud cakes and all the other fun stuff.
Dd is 2 1/2 won't wear bibs - she isn't even that bad with food it's weird she just seems to be a dirt magnet but you know what ... I love her exactly that way xxx
Definitely agree that no kids should be kept from playing/ having fun. And likewise, just because a kid isn't covered in dirt doesn't mean they are no fun or not allowed to play either.
It seems from what people are saying that some kids are just naturally 'cleaner' or 'messier' than others.
Also, we all have our own thresholds for what we find okay cleanliness wise. I find food/ snot on kids faces to be a bit gross (if it's just left there for periods of time), but that's just me. I'm sure there are heaps of things I do that other people think are really gross. Like have a nappy bin! I know for a fact that there have been threads about how terrible they are!
DS was quite a neat baby and toddler.
Kid....zomg.... The mess is unbelievable. UNBELIEVABLE!!!!!
I have given up trying to get him to stay neat, he just has too much fun!
If my children are out and get really dirty, they've had fun. I wipe their hands and faces, but I rarely take spare clothes when I'm out.
Who cares. They're not neglected. My children would have to be covered from head to toe in dirt for me to change them before going out in public, or a huge amount of food stains.
I hardly notice other kids when I'm at the shops to inspect their clothes. I don't care what other people think either.
The only thing I hate is when kids have green snotty noses and are near my kids at the park!
Haven't read all the replies.
Generally I would think meh they may have been picked up from DC/pre school like that (my DS comes home from pre school with paint on his clothes, dirt marks up his pants). Kids get dirty and sometimes for lots of reasons they have dirty clothes. The carer has not noticed before leaving, they were eating something while out etc. Having a pristine child alone,doesn't make you a good or bad parent.
I do feel sad for kids that are obviously being neglected though. There a little girl at DD's school who's uniforms are purid, and I'm not exaggerating. Her dress is BLACK, and it isn't from a lunchtime of playing. Her hair is oily and dirty, she has nits and it looks like her uniform hasn't been washed for literally a month, if not more. Poor child
That's child neglect plain and simple and is totally different to a child with a tomato sauce stain from a pie at the park.
My four boys just love to get dirty- just their rough and tumble nature I guess, I already go through about 8 outfits a day with them, so I refuse to do anymore, if they get grubby - then tough luck. They don't care, so why should I? Any parent who judges on that obviously has wayyy to much time on their hands and should probably get back to looking after their own children!
Also - my kids are just messy, messy, I wash their pjs every day and they usually need a change of clothes at some point - but I draw the line at that - that is 12 outfits a day! After that if they are dirty - which they usually are it's just tough luck. Anyone who judges my kids on that needs to probably focus on their kids and worry less about other peoples children!
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