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    Default Do your step kids call you mum?

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    HELL NO!! Makes me shudder to think of the thought

    But if it works for you...!

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    My SS is 13 and calls me by my first name... I dont mind i let him call me what so ever. He has issues with the word mum ( hasnt heard from his is over 3 years) and i dont expect him too..

    On the other hand my kids call DF dad... They see there dad every holidays and i just let them call him what ever they feel comfortable with..

    I would sit down with SD and just tell her to call you whatever she feels comfortable with - either "mum" or your first name. Leave it up to her....

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    Mine did once accidentally. I liked it. I called him my son. Unless it was actually necessary to use "step" and make the distinction. Which mostly it isn't

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    DSD1 calls me Mum

    DSD2 calls me by my shortened first name

    I don't really mind either way.

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    When DH and I separated I found out DD Had called his new girlfriend 'mum' and it crushed me. Thankfully she pulled DD up on it straight away and explained that she was not mum and DD was not to call her mum (DD was only 18 or so months old). I appreciated the fact she considered how I would feel, where as DH didn't care.

    I was the same with the guy I was seeing, his daughter was the same age as DD. I would never let her call me mum. I am not her mum, I am not trying to be her mum.

    In a situation where the mother is not around, like in a PP, then I might think differently.

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    My dad was with my step-mum for the last 15 years, they separated this last few weeks

    She has been my Evil Step-Bum and I her Step-Brat!!!
    I am so happy that this won't change!!!

    She cried when I told her she had more than earned the right to be my future bubs Nanna!!!

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    I have been careful not to push myself onto my Dh's two boys in any way so they call me by my name. I was always so careful of thier bio mum's feelings but when I found out that she was telling the boys to buy her man presents and make him presents at school on father's day I sorta gave up caring. She then tells my DP all about what his boys bought for her partner on father's day when he rings up to arrange to collect them for the day. Now who gives a stuff. She obviously doenst care so why should I? If they want to call me mum I wont object in the slightest. It's up to what they feel comfortable with and I wont steer them in either direction.

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    your SD may be spending more time with you than bio mum but shes still her mum and is in her life how does she feel about her daughter calling you mum?


 

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