We often host dinners at our house, and we always provide as we like to treat our guests. We have no problem with this but I think it is common courtesy to offer to bring something even if we would politely decline.
We were both brought up this way.
The best parties I have been to are when everyone brings a dish, you get to have food from a variety of cultures/backgrounds and it means the host isn't stressed out trying to get everything ready. I haven't asked for a contribution before when I have cooked but if it is a spur of the moment thing and we get takeaway everyone puts in. I wouldn't mind making a contribution but would probably prefer it to be food.
Last edited by Hootenanny; 10-06-2012 at 22:13. Reason: dumb *** typos
If I have a party/BBQ/dinner, I wouldn't ever ask somebody to pay for their meal. I think it's a big no no. If somebody asked me to pay for a home cooked meal, I'd keep my money and go to a restaurant instead.
Last edited by SugarSkull; 10-06-2012 at 22:26.
some people don't have a spare $50...but still enjoy hosting/attending dinner parties.
Like I said...often, the idea is floated by someone who is not hosting it. I used to have friends who lived at home and I lived out of home...they would suggest it because i had a venue and i was a good cook...it was more a communal dinner...everyone chipping in...
Even now, I could not dream of affording to host a party of 500 people!! We often have 10 ish people over and I would not ask them to contribute unless the party idea started when we were all sitting around over coffee and someone else suggested.
It depends who you are friends with and the general financial state of those around you. Some prefer "bring a plate" and some prefer to chip in and have someone else do all the food work.
Swings and round abouts.
AS someone else said...they used to have others over and put everything on and expected the other family to return the favour...when that didn't happen...they stopped inviting them. Sometimes...people cannot return the favour (no money, no skill, house too small etc etc etc) and if everyone chips in...it stops friendships breaking down over something that can be easily avoided.
There seems to be that lack of communication in this thread - again.
The question is: Is a contribution at a dinner party a normal request?
I think we've all established if it's a communal get together, a family pre-arranged event etc that a pre-organised cost arrangement is perfectly ok.
BUT would you invite somebody to dinner, then expect payment in lieu of food and services rendered.
This isn't aimed at the budget-conscious who can't afford it because to put it bluntly, a cash strapped person/people probably wouldn't invite folks over for dinner unless it refers to the pre-organised cash contribution or family event as stated above.
Just thought I'd point that out
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