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    I do agree that it depends on the financial situation of people's family and social groups.

    We generally supply everything when we have people over, including spirits, food etc but we are in the financial position to easily do this as are some of our friends.

    Bringing a plate is something I would happily do to a BBQ or afternoon tea or party and I always offer this but to be asked for money to pay for my meal would offend me.

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    I've never asked anyone to contribute financially to a dinner party and I never would. Our friends always bring their own drinks but we always have beer and wine for those who don't. Same if I go somewhere, I always bring a bottle of wine or something for the host. If I wanted to " pay" for my meal I would go to a restaurant...

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    If me and my friends do dinner,everyone just kinda splits it up,and we all bring food.
    If its a party,BYO booze,and everyone brings a plate.Although if I am throwing a bday party,I will supply all the food.
    To me,you would spend the money anyways,whether its giving cash to cover costs or using it to BUY the food you are bringing!
    Who really cares what other people and their friends do??

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    If you invite someone to dinner, it's rude to ask for contribution! At the same time, if you're invited to dinner I believe it's rude not to offer to at least bring a plate or dessert.

    If its pre-organised for participants to contribute, that's different.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Merlsification View Post
    If its pre-organised for participants to contribute, that's different.
    I think this is a very important point.

    For regular dinner parties, birthdays or the like, then asking for money is a bit rude.

    If there is a get together and your house is being used as the venue and it's all pre-organised for everyone to chip in, then I'd say that would be acceptable.

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    Yeah I would think it weird. I'd much rather go out or bring a plate, I'd be a bit annoyed if i had to pay for a home made meal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by *Chels* View Post
    If me and my friends do dinner,everyone just kinda splits it up,and we all bring food.
    If its a party,BYO booze,and everyone brings a plate.Although if I am throwing a bday party,I will supply all the food.
    To me,you would spend the money anyways,whether its giving cash to cover costs or using it to BUY the food you are bringing!
    Who really cares what other people and their friends do??
    Yeah so true. Who cares.. seems kind of rude to be saying other people are rude if that makes sense. Yes me and my friends all chip in for get togethers. No, we don't spring this on our guests after cooking some sausages and fried onion lol... Or try make a profit out of each other.

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    If someone says hey we're havign a dinner party would you like to come..... then it is rrude to turn around and expect to be paid.

    BUT if its more like hey we should all chip in some money and have a big dinner.... thats completely different


    I think though if your going to turn around and say that it cost so much per head- I'd be telling them to get nicked- what if joe only had a bit of salad but jack drank 2 bottles of wine and ate 2 t bone steaks.... completely unfair to request the saem amount of $$ from each.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    Yeah I would think it weird. I'd much rather go out or bring a plate, I'd be a bit annoyed if i had to pay for a home made meal.

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    Hmm yeah we have never done splitting the cost for a home made meal. Usually for ordering food and for lots of alcohol.

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    I have been thinking about this since the earlier thread. My initial reaction was that it was weird and rude, partly because I have never heard of people requesting cash before, even when I was a poor student.

    But the examples that have been given make sense. It seems to be situations where a group wants to come together for a more elaborate occasion at home, but the individual group members can't afford it on their own, so they pool their funds for their mutual benefit. Everybody seems happy with the arrangement, so I guess that's fine. It's just a more pragmatic approach to everybody bringing something.

    It wouldn't be something that I would do, but I can see the logic.

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