+ Reply to Thread
Page 7 of 7 FirstFirst ... 567
Results 61 to 65 of 65
  1. #61
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Posts
    3,678
    Thanks
    788
    Thanked
    1,847
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    i think it is rude being angry at them for not offering.

    I do not see asking as "begging" or "belittling"....no more would I see it as any other negative.

    I don't have family near by...but when we go to stay with them (once a year), I always ask mum to babysit for the afternoon so DH and I can go to a movie or something. My mum is staying with us this week...and I will ask her to watch the kids for a few hours one weekend so DH and I can go somewhere together...i would never expect her to offer or get cut if she didn't offer.

    I have had to ask friends to babysit DS before (during IVF and also when i had some pregnancy issues and DH needed to take me to hospital)...and never did i feel like I was begging or somehow demeaning myself. I take care of one of my friends son often during the school holidays (she works, i don't) and she asks me each term ... i do not see her as begging either.

    I think it is perception...asking for help is not an awful thing...the strongest people i know ask and accept help all the time.

  2. The Following User Says Thank You to River Song For This Useful Post:

    truely blessed  (11-06-2012)

  3. #62
    Join Date
    Dec 2010
    Posts
    1,862
    Thanks
    164
    Thanked
    497
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I don't think it's selfish to wish for someone to look after your children and for you to get a break/honeymoon. But you do need I ask, it isn't fair to presume/expect out children to be looked after when you don't ask. I often have the same problem as you - my SIL gets an unbelievable amount of help with her kids and I get not much - but I never ask, and everytime I have asked I have got help - its just that everyone assumes we are coping/don't need help (even with a DH that travels 1 month every 2 months).... I guess I do cope - but sometimes I should not be so proud and ask. I think this applies to you too.

  4. #63
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Location
    1234
    Posts
    2,821
    Thanks
    887
    Thanked
    583
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Deserama View Post
    But why should I have to ask? I don't like asking...because then I feel like I'm putting people out. Is that what other people do? Go around asking their family when they want some time away? Do other people's families offer?
    Yep.. I ask :-)

    ***Sent from my phone***

  5. #64
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Location
    Tenambit.
    Posts
    9,037
    Thanks
    1,564
    Thanked
    2,936
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    sucks they haven't offered...

    but, I agree - lack of communication leads to confusion and anger.

    just ask!

  6. #65
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    Location
    Toowoomba
    Posts
    8,747
    Thanks
    2,851
    Thanked
    1,440
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Thanks everyone.

    Obviously anytime I need time away I'll need to ask. Which I find hard to do...so it probably won't happen.

    Thankfully I have a 15 year old now so going out for a coffee is ok...I just wouldn't leave her here overnight...can't wait for the day when I can! LOL

    I just don't like asking...I don't know why. I think the same as Delirium where I expect that people are observant and assume we'd like some time away and be nice/kind enough to offer...and would WANT to watch the kids...being family and all. No I haven't offered to watch their kids.....cos they don't have any LOL I'm the only one! But as soon as one pops out a kid...quess what I'll be doing?? LOL


 

Similar Threads

  1. Be honest! How much did you pay for your dog?
    By Janesmum123 in forum Pets
    Replies: 79
    Last Post: 30-11-2012, 07:51
  2. Was I wrong be honest
    By kmetius in forum General Chat
    Replies: 22
    Last Post: 18-02-2012, 23:21
  3. Guess I have to be honest with myself...
    By Chocolate All Gone Now in forum Prenatal depression
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 03-02-2012, 19:38

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Springfree Trampoline
Give the Ultimate Christmas Gift Springfree Trampoline
The World's Safest Trampoline™ is now also the world's first Smart Trampoline™. Sensors on the mat detect your every move and your jumps control fun, educational and active games on tablet. Secure the Ultimate Christmas Gift today!
sales & new stuffsee all
Bub Hub Sales Listing
HAVING A SALE? Let parents know about it with a Bub Hub Sales listing. Listings are featured on our well trafficked Sales Page + selected randomly to appear on EVERY page
featured supporter
ProSwim
ProSwim Rostrevor runs learn to swim classes for children and adults. Lessons are run during the Summer months (Oct-Mar). Our indoor centre at Plympton Park has lessons all year round, including school holidays.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!