Not a whinger. Not at all. Your feelings are perfectly valid and understandable. It took a few conversations for my DH to 'get it'. I remember we had a lightbulb moment but I can't remember what I said that triggered it.
I agree that he needs to know how this makes you feel. Really know. If he says that he's just not interested in s.ex point out that its not necessarily about s.ex. That you would love to cuddle, and be told you're hot and attractive and feel wanted. That's not just about s.ex. This isn't just about his libido - its about intimacy and feelings.
And I agree with Fearless - It is very normal. So many of my female friends complain about the same thing.