I have been browing the web for some time now looking for answers and came across this forum from a google search. I will keep it as short and simple as I can.
When I was a young kid, I was diagnosed with a tight/short foreskin. I was at a young enough age that I don't remember actually being diagnosed with this at the time, although what I do remember at the time is my mother encouraging me to pull back my skin at bath time to wash behind it, and I never remember being ultimately successful. It wasn't until my teenage years that I was able to retract my foreskin with a lot of difficulty, and at that age I guess your mother isn't involved with your penis in any way, and it was too embarrassing to talk about.
Subsequently, at the age where I was meant to be discoving sex and having fun, I instead became very self-conscious about my penis. I eventually got myself done in my early 20s fully off my own accord both financially and with no one else for support. It has totally changed my sex life for the better but I will leave that at that because I am not looking for a debate here. My circ job is ok but it doesn't look as good as a baby circ does when they are my age and is too loose so could do with a revision to hopefully finally fix it.
Now I am 29 and my 4 year old son seems to have the same problem and complains that his foreskin/head is sore at times. I feel he is going to grow up with the same problems I had. We have been to the doctors a couple of times and have tried the creams with no real change. The mother is against circ and doesn't want to see my viewpoint. I feel it is better to have this fixed for him at an early age where it will heal neater for him and not cost him over $2,000 like it did me, with more money yet to be spent.
My mother wanted me done at the time of birth, and dad is done. The hospital just 'don't do that anymore', and this was back in '83! When I was about 4 or 5 we moved to a different end of the state, where boys were done, and I was then in the 1/3 uncut minority growing up. I think, uncut minority can be teased in school, where if the cut is the minority, the teasing doesn't seem to happen that way around, at least in my experience growing up.
I feel that someone has to be responsible for my pain and suffering growing up. Do all doctors ever do recommend for tight foreskin phimosis is creams? Where is a circ needed? Why wasn't my penis fixed if it had a problem that I eventually had to get fixed myself? These are questions I have that don't have answers, and I want to do everything possible to make sure my son doesn't go through the same. Advise please. Ben