No, that behaviour is not normal.
Unfortunately though I would say that out of control 4yo's are more likely to be from lack of parental boundaries than from a diagnosis. Maybe not amongst bubhub mum's as we are here seeking help & offering advice, but there are quite a few parents who really struggle with setting boundaries and following through on consequences. I know I really struggle with setting appropriate consequences that actually work for my 5yo ds.
But, as the OP has said she thinks the parents are doing a good job as parents and setting some boundaries, etc, so, in the case of the mentioned child there may be an underlying health issue. If the Mum is concerned she should take him to the GP as a starting point. But, if he's at childcare or Kinder they will probably flag his behaviour as an issue and offer suggestions as needed.
It is quite possible that he *doesn't* have a disorder and is going through a stage, 4 year olds can be quite boisterous and I personally think that all avenues should be explored. Not every child who is going through stage has a disorder, some do.
Last edited by Ffrenchknickers; 08-06-2012 at 10:36.
From the initial post it did seem like perhaps lack of boundaries was a problem, so I can understand why people suggested that. But after the OPs extra info it sounds like the parents are trying the right things. Maybe its just a stage, maybe its a disorder, maybe they just haven't found the right approach for him yet.
i feel for the parents. Best thing you can do is be a supportive friend, listen if they want to talk, offer suggestion to see a dr if they ask for advice, and let them know you think they're great parents doing their best and you hope things improve for them. Tough situation.
Apologies if this has been mentioned already.
Also look at the Fed Up diet... small changes like making sure bread comes from the bakers & using real butter as opposed to margarine makes a big difference. There's also an elimination diet you can try to make sure one particular food isn't setting him off.
Last edited by MummysYellowCar; 12-06-2012 at 07:22.
Absolutely does not sound normal, sounds exactly like ONE of my FOUR boys, the other 3 would never do such things, but you see, when it is something other than just behaviour - discipline just does not work
My son has multiple Sensory processing disorders and one of the main ones is that he craves the feel of heavy touch, hence the jumping off furniture, crashing into people and throwing things. I would never take him to a restaurant at this point. It is just too hard. He is in occupation therapy for it, but I'd mention it to your friend.
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