That's fair enough. Hopefully it is just a stage and he outgrows it. If he is 4 he would have had his healthy start for kids check, I assume if she had any issues she would have brought them up, or the nurse/GP conducting the test would have noticed the signs. Maybe next time she confides in you, you could gently bring up assesment, it's hard when it's not your own child and trying not to cross lines.
I'm just adding from my own personal experiences as I had a friend approach me about my son and I was quite taken back and upset, it ended up sticking with me and I turned to Dr. google whcih gave me all kinds of conflicting information, but when I mentioned it to his GP at the 4yr check she didn't seem concearned at all with his behavior but I was told to monitor it and if it worsened she would refer me to a paed, thankfully my son outgrew the out of control behavior and we didn't have to take further action.
my point is..she has tried almost everything..it doesn't work..that to me says there is something else going on..more then just..lack of boundaries ..diff techniques needed..
can anyone suggest a technique?
What does she do if he is acting like that in a restaurant? I would seriously get up and leave if one of my children did that, they have to know it is not on. how is his diet? Do you think it could be related to that?
For example, the Triple P parenting programs offer their standard programs, but if that is not working for your child, you can see a triple P practitioner (a psychologist) and they can help with something more specific.
the good thing about seeing child health is that they should ask other questions about the situation as well to see if it is something more than just behaviour.
the standard techniques in books just don't work for all kids.
really the diet is great!!..
we were all out at dinner ..he climbed on table..they picked him up and left..(felt bad for them)..
beforte climbing..he was just standing yelling..they told him off..took him outside..came back..he continued...
Trusty predictable diamondeyes here
If in doubt get to the gp or paed.
Thats all ill say.
I was going to chat to my dad today about him (pediatrician)..
sounds a lot like my son. he has always been super aggressive violent etc. he has a diagnosis of oppositonal defiance disorder and aspergers. also has issues with hearing loss and sensroy processing disorder. food colours etc def make him worse but u say he eats really healthy. no different parenting techniques have ever made a diff here.
im not saying your friends kid has this but may be worth looking into?
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