I agree that we do put everyone first besides ourselves, I had serious morning sickness up till 14 weeks (I was vomiting up to 7 times a day and ended up in the emergency ward) and even now at 25 weeks if hubby has an early start (get up before 6.30am) bub doesn't seem to like it and I find myself vomiting for the day as I ALWAYS get up for him before work and cook him breakfast and pack his lunch. I don't think he will get me jewellery for a push present but I dare say he will bring flowers or something. If he did bring me a big diamond ring OR any other gift I would be ecstatic, simply that he took the time to think of me. I actually tend to prefer gifts from the heart though to be honest.
All of our family that visit will probably bring flowers and a gift for bub to the hospital. I don't expect it but I think it is lovely all the same.
My hubby is european and as such for weddings/baby showers etc his family give tremendously. We didn't do a gift registry for our wedding, so we were given money. I have done a gift registry for my baby shower, as I simply know that it is expected. I have no problem with it, and yes, I AM waiting to buy a lot of items as I don't know what will be bought for bubs at the shower. I recognise not everyone operates that way (I am australian, and my family don't) and that's fine too.
I think it is up to the individual and their circumstances as to what is given or received. We are all different, and that's why it is ok whether you get one or not, and not up to anyone else to judge