Just because you wake 6-7 times a night for your baby doesn't mean someone who doesn't is doing the wrong thing or had their baby for the wrong reason. A breastfed baby would be different, but a formula fed baby would not need a feed that many times a night and I think that would be out of habit and not a good one if you're feeding them small amounts of formula 6-7 times overnight to fall back asleep.
Motherhood doesn't equal martyrdom. You need to sleep and babies do too, if someone is unhappy with something, you change it. If pp isn't happy with the sleep routine then she's finding a way to change it. She never said she's leaving her baby alone all night to cry alone, she never said she won't respond to a distressed cry. Leaving a baby to self settle is actually good, and self settling isn't crying it out, babies do have the ability to roll around, or coo or whatever and put themselves to sleep. That's soothing themselves and it's not wrong.
I don't mean to be mean, but as a mother of 2 babies atm telling a mum to just suck it up and to run to every noise or that they should be getting up 6-7 times and live on no sleep because you do is just wrong. It might work for you but sleep deprivation can be very bad for your health and well being and it needs to be remedied.
Neekie, you come across as a caring and connected mum. Go with your instincts
Sleep and settling is definitely a hot topic on BubHub, everyone has a different take on what works 'best' because every child has its own unique quirks, needs, wants and instinctive routine, different strokes for different folks.
Good luck with the daytime sleeps
We do whatever we need according to our own situation. Don't worry about people judging or feel that you need to explain yourself to the whole world. I don't do controlled crying but if it works for other mums why shouldn't they do it! And people tend to forget that little babies are very different to each other, just like us, there is hardly one method that works for every baby. I toss and turn for a good half an hour in bed to go to sleep and if something disrupts me, I'll need another half an hour. My husband sleeps the moment his back touches the bed and he's rarely waken up when DS cries unless I kick him My son is just like me, he needs to grizzle & roll back and forth to sleep.
Naps, so that's not a problem.
Thank you, ive never felt judged on a forum before and it's quite an awful feeling. As a second time mum with a big gap between babies I find it daunting because so many things have changed since my DS1 was a baby. I never even knew of CC or Co sleeping 7 years ago!
I think its quite important to nip this in the bud before December- you'll have your hands full enough without doing it on no sleep.
I never let my babies cry to sleep and they self settled and slept 12 hours a night at around 10-12 weeks old. It wasn't just "luck" either. Sometimes I would sit by the cot with my arm through the bar patting, rubbing their backs and shhhing them for 2-3 hours at a time. I was there for him without picking him up or feeding him through the night when it wasn't necessary. I don't believe in leaving a baby to cry, as I believe it makes them think negatively about bedtime and their bed/cots and this causes a whole lot of problems. Also, when they cry my first instinct is to go and comfort them, so I did that without causing bad habits.
I would try sleeping bubba on his tummy and when he wakes I would go in there (dark, quiet) and simply pat him in a rythym while saying shh shh...if he gets upset and cries then I would pick him up and rock him until he is ok again and then back into the cot to be patted. This could go on for weeks...you'll want to give in and go back to just bringing him into your bed but if you persist at trying to get him to sleep on his own for the whole night I guarantee you'll never regret it. I think I got RSI from so much friggin patting but I dont give a crap now lol. Goodluck.
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