+ Reply to Thread
Page 3 of 14 FirstFirst 1234513 ... LastLast
Results 21 to 30 of 132
  1. #21
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Posts
    6,372
    Thanks
    422
    Thanked
    1,168
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Personally I think its okay if you have to. I never used to but I have developed quite severe anxiety because my daughter wakes frequently for the boob all night. I broke down in the doctors office.. just.so.tired.. I had.all these feelings of guilt every time she made a squeak and I couldn't get there in one second.. she was held in a carrier for the first four months of her life.. never put Down.. she co slept and fed all night long. some babies are quite good and can be cuddled and fed to sleep or will co sleep and let you get some sleep and as they get older will gradually sleep longer stretches.. Other babies need some training. There is.no perfect way to parent and as I have learnt, your well being is important too.

    Sent from my HTC Desire S using BubHub

  2. #22
    headoverfeet's Avatar
    headoverfeet is offline The truth will set you free, but first it will **** you off. -Gloria Steinem
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    18,954
    Thanks
    3,142
    Thanked
    4,892
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    I don't think it's ok at all I did it with my first child and feel awful now I have educated myself on it, I taught him to give up, to not bother crying out when he wakes because no one will come. We don't treat our elderly like this so why do we do it to our babies? What kind of society are we creating with this kind of mental torture?

  3. The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to headoverfeet For This Useful Post:

    BaronessM  (07-06-2012),Etienne  (06-06-2012),majo  (06-06-2012),missie_mackxxxx  (06-06-2012),peanutmonkey  (07-06-2012),trishalishous  (06-06-2012)

  4. #23
    Gothel's Avatar
    Gothel is offline Skip the drama, stay with Mama!
    Join Date
    Apr 2007
    Location
    Stressame Street
    Posts
    6,515
    Thanks
    2,368
    Thanked
    2,113
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Thermolicious View Post
    I don't think it's ok at all I did it with my first child and feel awful now I have educated myself on it, I taught him to give up, to not bother crying out when he wakes because no one will come. We don't treat our elderly like this so why do we do it to our babies? What kind of society are we creating with this kind of mental torture?
    I'm sure you were just doing the best you could at the time. Do you think he has suffered any bad effects from his early sleep routines? I'm sure he's a very loved little boy...

  5. #24
    headoverfeet's Avatar
    headoverfeet is offline The truth will set you free, but first it will **** you off. -Gloria Steinem
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    18,954
    Thanks
    3,142
    Thanked
    4,892
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by MrsTiggyWinkle View Post
    I'm sure you were just doing the best you could at the time. Do you think he has suffered any bad effects from his early sleep routines? I'm sure he's a very loved little boy...
    Yes I do, when he needs help he tends to hide instead of seeking it. Of course he is very much loved but there is something there that isn't there with my other 2 children, he holds us at a distance and I have to work with him to get him to reconnect emotionally. I also think it effected our level of bonding I found it hard to connect with him emotionally after going through CC.

  6. #25
    Join Date
    Jan 2011
    Location
    Perth WA
    Posts
    2,068
    Thanks
    1,637
    Thanked
    544
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Thermolicious View Post
    Yes I do, when he needs help he tends to hide instead of seeking it. Of course he is very much loved but there is something there that isn't there with my other 2 children, he holds us at a distance and I have to work with him to get him to reconnect emotionally. I also think it effected our level of bonding I found it hard to connect with him emotionally after going through CC.

    I felt so sad when I read your reply Thermo

  7. #26
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    14,750
    Thanks
    2,078
    Thanked
    3,540
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Here's a link to a Pinky McKay Page

  8. #27
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Posts
    6,868
    Thanks
    5,194
    Thanked
    3,894
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Neekie View Post
    To the mums who don't agree on letting the baby cry, do you mean i should be holding my baby till he falls asleep? every time?
    Yes.

    Hold, cuddle, feed, sing to, pat, lie next to etc till they are ready to roll over and go to sleep themselves.

    some kids like body contact to go to sleep. others like it if you are in the room but not touching them. some like to sleep by themselves. But I dont believe you should leave babies/kids to cry themselves to sleep.

    I understand babies/children crying when you are next to them... you are letting them know that its ok to be upset and that you are there to support them.

  9. The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to Rose&Aurelia&Hannah For This Useful Post:

    Etienne  (06-06-2012),majo  (06-06-2012),smallpotatoes  (06-06-2012),trishalishous  (06-06-2012),wrena  (06-06-2012)

  10. #28
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    14,750
    Thanks
    2,078
    Thanked
    3,540
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Neekie View Post

    To the mums who don't agree on letting the baby cry, do you mean i should be holding my baby till he falls asleep? every time?
    No - not all babies need to be held to go to sleep - rarely some babies do.

    Look up the link from Pinky McKay and check out some of her advice.

    Eventualy (21yo?) most babies do learn to sleep

  11. #29
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Posts
    19,602
    Thanks
    3,256
    Thanked
    4,044
    Reviews
    8
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Neekie View Post
    ok so, his cry is between both a wing and a real cry, if i leave him he will ALWAYS fall asleep, i am so conflicted with what I'm getting in response, my 7 year old cried himself to sleep and is fine now, and sleeps well, and has no attachment problems.

    To the mums who don't agree on letting the baby cry, do you mean i should be holding my baby till he falls asleep? every time?
    that's what I do. and I have a newborn and a toddler so I'm not suggesting it's easy.

    I also highly recommend the company of a smart phone

    I totally appreciate *why* to controlled cry/control comfort/cry it out etc but I don't truly feel it's "okay".

    but I also do believe if you're bonded with your baby and stay present to his cries and if your gut feeling is it's okay then I would trust that it is.

    Sent from my GT-I9300 using BubHub

  12. #30
    Join Date
    Sep 2010
    Posts
    5,530
    Thanks
    377
    Thanked
    1,526
    Reviews
    7
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by bumMum View Post
    Personally I think its okay if you have to. I never used to but I have developed quite severe anxiety because my daughter wakes frequently for the boob all night. I broke down in the doctors office.. just.so.tired.. I had.all these feelings of guilt every time she made a squeak and I couldn't get there in one second.. she was held in a carrier for the first four months of her life.. never put Down.. she co slept and fed all night long. some babies are quite good and can be cuddled and fed to sleep or will co sleep and let you get some sleep and as they get older will gradually sleep longer stretches.. Other babies need some training. There is.no perfect way to parent and as I have learnt, your well being is important too.

    Sent from my HTC Desire S using BubHub
    I understand this totally


 

Similar Threads

  1. 6 month old day sleep
    By Lissy12 in forum General Sleeping & Settling Chat
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 23-07-2012, 07:10
  2. 10 Month old sleep HELP!
    By alliemc69 in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 22-05-2012, 09:10
  3. 18 month old day sleep
    By misscheekysmum in forum General Sleeping & Settling Chat
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 02-03-2012, 19:08

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Ro&Co
Share magical moments this Christmas with this gorgeous gingerbread house. Exclusively available in Brisbane, with FREE delivery in Brisbane Metro areas. Each Christmas Centrepiece is unique and made to order, from $240.
sales & new stuffsee all
Wendys Music School Melbourne
Wondering about Music Lessons? FREE 30 minute ASSESSMENT. Find out if your child is ready! Piano from age 3 years & Guitar, Singing, Drums, Violin from age 5. Lessons available for all ages. 35+ years experience. Structured program.
Use referral 'bubhub' when booking
featured supporter
Little Rugby NSW
Catch, weave, chase, run, but most of all have FUN! Little Rugby runs a NSW network of fun, safe and non-contact footy classes for BOYS and GIRLS aged 2yrs – 7th birthday.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!