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    The first year she was born was SO HARD!!..being tired and stressed didn't help..our girl is now 3..and we are much better..not quite as loving as we used to be ..but I think it's getting back to normal slowly.....If we had another kid..I think our relationship would die!!!

    one we are done!!!

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    Ours has changed a lot for the better we have a 16year age gap between us. Things were great until we moved in together on our own & then we were fighting every night mostly it was because of me, I was still young when we got together & drinking heaps & then we decided to start trying for our DS & as soon as we found out we were pregnant, the fighting stopped my drinking stopped & we changed to who we are today, we have been together 4 years. We love our DS & each other more then anything in the world we are soul mates & often tell each other that. We have just moved into our own house & pregnant with #2. We still have our ups & downs but they don't last long because we cant handle wasting time on being upset, mad at each other.

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    With ex it seemed to get worse the more kids we had, turns out he did't even want any kids in the first place, yet he told me he wanted to get me pregnant and didn't wear a condom. He's paying for that now though

    As for dp, we haven't got any kids together, it's a bit early for that yet. But he's never known me without my kids.

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    Ours has become worse recently. DP is a great dad, a fantastic dad. But he and I together seem to be a bad mix. We can't talk without something turning into a fight or a heated debate about whose right and when I end the conversation because I'm sick of it all he carries on. Or if I need to talk to him about something he'll tell me to shut up and tell me he's ignoring me because I'm just whinging.

    Last night I was sure I hated him, just as a person. I don't talk to him about much anymore because I hate worrying that everything will turn into a fight, hardly text or call him.

    We are actually a great match for each other. But somewhere along the lines we obviously got side tracked on our relationship and clearly its taking it's toll.

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    On the whole: better.

    It has made us communicate better & more often than before. We are a lot more thoughtful of each others feelings now & are kinder to each other in general.

    Some things still need improving though, and we're farrr from perfect

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    I would say better. Not in any tangible way, but I guess just a bit deeper. We went through a lot to have DD, and going through IVF now for #2. Having DH's support through that, and seeing what a great father he is, has made me appreciate him even more. It hasn't changed anything, but it's like it's added levels to how I feel.

    I asked him the same question, and he said nothing has changed for him, as he felt that everything was great beforehand, and still is now. But he said that he looks at DD and see both of us in her, and that's something special for him.

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    Um probably better?

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    Quote Originally Posted by maybenumber3 View Post
    Mine changed for the worse, even though dd and ds were very planned I dont think xdh was ready to be a father (he still isn't imo) . Also I think after you have children you are less tolerant to all their c**p they expect you to put up with lol.
    With xdh I felt like I was his mother too, I'm hoping things with dp will be different, we're a great team, we both give and take iykwim ?
    This expect my DS was a surpirse.

    I thought ex would be an awesome father and partner but i was obviously looking through rose coloured glasses.

    I got a sense of empowerment, self respect and confidence when i became a mother and just stood up for myself and left. I tried to highlight my thoughts, feelings etc, heck, i even took him back after one breakup after DS was born but me communicating my points was simply 'nagging/whinging' or 'trying to change him' etc

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    Quote Originally Posted by Girl X View Post
    But he said that he looks at DD and see both of us in her, and that's something special for him.
    That's incredibly touching... and very true for us too, now that you've put it into words.

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    I would say our relationship has definitely changed however in some areas for the better and others for the worse. We still spend time together but not as much 1 on 1 time (therefore se* is lacking) however in terms of communication thats improved mostly because now that I am a mother I have found more confidence and think more about how the 'now' can effect my daughters perceptions on life so I give my opinion more and force DH to communicate. We also have a clearer picture on how we want our future to be and are working towards achieving those goals.


 

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