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    Default How would I cope without any supportive friends or family?!?

    Well obviously fairly well. My sister responded to the text message that I was going in for a d&c with I'm sorry and then whinged about how over her pregnancy she is. I just texted my mum that I'm really struggling. I couldn't get out of bed today and spent it crying and being sick. I can't do Uni work or even talk to my kids. Her reply was oh ok.

    Not a single 'friend' has Msged, called or anything since we lost bub.

    Will crawl back under my rock now and hide from the world. Feeling so **** and alone right now

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    Wow, how insensitive :-(

    I'm sorry you're going through this feeling so alone. I have nothing to say that will make you feel better obviously, but couldn't not post.

    I hope you get some support soon from someone close to you. xx

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    I'm really sorry, it makes it hurt so much more when you don't have support or understanding.
    After my last d&c nobody bothered to ask how i was, nobody said anything and that hurt me so much. It was like it didn't matter at all
    You have my support, might not be the same as real life support but i'm thinking of you.

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    Just wanted to vent on here more than anything. I'm exhausted and hormonal so don't want to risk saying something awful to them

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    I'm so sorry for what you are going through.

    Maybe they just don't know how to approach the topic.
    It can be quite difficult for them to know what your limits are.

    I hope you are holding up ok

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    I felt like no body cared when I lost my baby last year. The problem is, people dont understand how devistating it is unless they have had one themselves. I didnt understand before I had mine.
    I found my dh was the only person I could turn to, but even so, sometimes he even made me feel alone, because he didnt have to physically endure it. So he recovered faster.
    It is a very lonely thing to go through.
    It gets better in time of course, but let yourself grieve for as long as you need to, you just lost your baby, your child.
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    I'm sorry Someone else whinging about their pregnancy to you is pretty cruel when you'd give anything to still be preg.

    I felt a bit crabby when my mum was telling me all about my stepsister going into labour recently when I lost a baby this year. I was like "don't you realise it upsets me?!"

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    Thanks lovelies xoxo

    DH finally stepped up to the plate last night by finally being there for me. I don't think he had realized how much this is bothering me. I think the third time I woke him crying with nightmares was the wake up he needed. As for family, well I should know better.

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    Ppl can be so insensitive
    My sister is a very self-centred person too, for instance when my DH had been in a terrible car accident she rang me and while I was crying on the phone about how I thought he was going to die, she changed the subject and started talking about how hard her day had been with having to get a mani and a pedi and her hair done, etc. SO insensitive.

    I'm glad your DH was there for you overnight, i hope he's tender with you during your healing time


 

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