I'm working 2 days a week & my dd2 spends those days at daycare & at her grandmothers house..the other 3 days are spent with dd2 doing activities & doing the school & kindy drop offs. My down time is in the evening when they are in bed & on wkends when i go for walks with my friends. I have also just negotiated finishing an hour earlier at work & use that time to go the shops etc before picking the kids up.
Both DH & I work ft..We have DSs bedtime routine down to a fine art. He is in bed asleep by 7pm, sometime my down time is simply doing this.. sitting on bh watching the voice. Or i get to have a long shower, or I do some chores once DS is in vbed. Also means that either DH or I can go out leaving the other at hme knowing DSs will sleep soundly.
Apart from that, we take DS pretty much everywhere. My parents have him probably on average 1 a month for an afternoon, or night (on the weekend). Occassionally they will take him out on a saturday morning but generally he just does everything with us. Doc appts, groceries, vet etc.
I also have lotsa lunch dates with girlfriends, so i socialise on my lunch break.
We're also pretty flexible too, whilst we are strict with DSs bedtime, we also take him to dinner (even if means in his pjs) if we are going out for dinner. We go to my parents once a week for dinner and hes up later that night..
I have to do it with the kids around or my husband takes them out when I need it. My kids do love helping and grocery shopping, so it's not that big a deal to me. However, it's really not that fun for them. I work 3 days, so do not want to spend the only time I have with my children cleaning, shopping, running errands, paying bills, etc. so some days my house isn't vacuumed, big deal.
I do do it because I have to, but if I was a single mum, I would not hesitate putting my kids in daycare one or two days a week to get things done and have a break. It would mean the rest of the week I would have quality time with them.
Last edited by BigRedV; 04-06-2012 at 20:13.
I am a studying mum...with a 7 year old and a 20 month old.
DD goes to daycare 5 hours a week (drop, go to uni and collect on way home and she doesn't go in the holidays).
She has a 1 hour sleep, she school run takes 40 minutes each morning and arvo.
On top of housework etc, i study about 4-5 hours a week at home.
I find one of the best ways to cope is to embrace the chaos lol Things get messy (esp when i have an essay due lol), but they get cleaned up again.
I get DD involved in cleaning...she loves helping with the dishwasher lol I clean a little while she has lunch or i study while she is asleep. I do have some days where i resort to playschool (normally I don't put tv on for her at all lol).
DH and I have struggled getting time together, but over the last 3 weeks DD has FINALLY started sleeping a little better so we get a little bit of time in the evenings.
Shopping, I take DD. She can be a pita but I take snacks and let her walk for a little while. I try and pick my times (straight after school drop off so she not tired) and know what i need and go as quickly as i can.
DH and I have not had a single moment without DD since she was born.
I guess I would see evenings as down time once your kids are sleeping well...you can do have time out, do cleaning, tidy up etc etc.
I worked in childcare and dd still followed me to the toilet and came on lunch with me! So yeah, at work I did what I would do at home, but with lots more kids. But as a single mum with no money, it was what it was.
I didnt do much to be honest.
I found that my whole day was trying to get DD interested in something so I could run off and clean/cook, it was really stressful.
Shes always been a spirited child,and has never liked being left to play on her own.
The only thing I could do with her was the washing, as she would play on the lawn while I hung it out/brought it in and I could fold it while she played blocks next to me.
Now I get everything done on the one day, and we actually interact 90% of the time, reading and drawing, playing cards and going to the park.
I either take my son to appointments with me, or leave him with my partner if i can make it a weekend or evening appointment.
Grocery shopping I take my son with me generally, and personal shopping I do in my lunch break on work days as I work in the city so have access to most shops.
With cleaning, I do it while he's there, or we do it on the weekend while the other parent entertains him.
It would be a lot harder as a single parent. I would have to rely on friends more to look after him for appointments where I couldn't take him.
Put this way, I went shopping without the kids the other day and it was horrid. I had to bend down and get stuff off the bottom shelf, I had to put it all on the checkout and worst of all the trolley just did steer right without the kids hanging off it. I swear I will never do that again.
I work four days a week and DD2 is in child care on these days, although my days aren't long days as DD1 goes to school so a couple of days a week I finish early enough to pick her up and take her to after school activities, etc. Sometimes I take advantage of just having DD1 with me to run a few errands before picking up DD2 from child care.
I have also used online shopping for a long time, however have been finding the service pretty poor lately so have decided to try doing our weekly food shop myself while DD1 attends dancing classes after school one day a week as this goes for two hours.
I usually make all of 'my' appointments on a Saturday morning while DH looks after the kids, or if I need to go on my day off and can't take DD2 along I ask my mum to come with me or drop her off at her place for an hour.
I have a supportive DH who helps in whatever way he can, he understands that I work too, maybe not full time, but the organization involved in getting to work each day is still the same.
DH and I also give each other a sleep in on the weekend, one day I sleep in the next he does.
I do consider work to be an outlet for me where I can socialise with other adults, especially when the office environment is good, but not so much fun if there are office politics, etc bringing the atmosphere down, then I'd prefer to be at home with my girls!
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