Subbing! First time mum-to-be keen on any great advice! Thanks
I'd tell myself to put a little bit if time and energy into my relationship. I neglected my Dh, who is needy emotionally, and he ended up with clinical depression, and attempted to take his own life, if I had have recognized how much he was struggling, I could have got him help early, before it escalated so badly. I was so busy with dd, I was just angry at him for not helping me, didn't notice he couldn't help due to depression.
Eat better, prepare some lunch in advance, like leftovers, I ate biscuits for lunch for about 6 months.
When dd stopped sleeping at 8 months of age, wish I had have tried harder with patting and sshhing, rather than just putting her into our bed.
take the physio classes!!!
Take more time for just you and DS in the hospital.
stagger the visitors.
Stand up the in laws in hospital speak up when you hear something you dont like,
be proud of yourself! you are amazing you are a mother!! rejoice!
Sleep as much as you can in the last month of pregnancy!!
Dont let people tell you whats right and wrong, your instincts are always right
Tell midwifes, delivery doctors, nurses and so on to pi$$ offa
Don't spend all your money on cut flowers and cute baby clothes, you won't be going back to FT work for a very long time!
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I'm still very much the first-time mum. Bubs is only 4months. Here is what I know I would tell myself to do differently:
Send out birth announcement the next day. We had visitors the moment we got to the ward. The hours straight after the birth are too precious to be pleasing visitors. Wish it had just been DH & DS & me.
I would seriously limit visitors in the first week. If they really care about your whole family (i.e. don't just have their heart set on holding a brand new baby) then they will be happy to let you get settled as a new family before visiting.
I would sleep every chance I got while he was a tiny new bubs. By week 4 he had stopped sleeping much during the day and I still hadn't recovered.
I would stop feeling that I need to justify every decision I make about DS. I DO know him better than anyone and I am tuned into him.
I would wait and see what kind of baby he was before buying a pram, especially an expensive one. For a long time I found myself pushing the pram and carrying him because he didn't want a bar of it. Lol!
I would stop doubting myself!
I would listen to my instincts and hold to them--and that goes for during pregnancy and labour as well.
I would try not to compare his habits/behaviours to other babies.
There's probably lots more, but I hope that whenever #2 arrives I will remember this and trust in it.
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