+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 3 123 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 30
  1. #1
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    380
    Thanks
    258
    Thanked
    115
    Reviews
    1

    Default What would you go back and tell yourself as a first-time mum?

    Imagining that you could have a conversation with your first-time mum self, what would you say? How would you guide yourself?

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    1,083
    Thanks
    123
    Thanked
    402
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quit worrying about what I 'should' be doing and be happy and confident enough to follow bubs lead. Way too much time spent worrying about doing things 'right'.

  3. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to 2Bboys For This Useful Post:

    Bennos Mummy  (04-06-2012),Lissy12  (04-06-2012)

  4. #3
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    Location
    Launceston, Tasmania
    Posts
    617
    Thanks
    230
    Thanked
    75
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Persevere with breast feeding for a week or two longer. I know I will try to this time around.

  5. #4
    HugsBunny's Avatar
    HugsBunny is offline Once upon a time there was a bunny.........
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Posts
    6,603
    Thanks
    4,531
    Thanked
    1,966
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Stop waiting for approval from your husband. Stop waiting for him to want to spend time with you and bub. Stand up for yourself in hospital an don't allow anyone to talk down to you.

  6. #5
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Posts
    371
    Thanks
    38
    Thanked
    79
    Reviews
    0
    Don't listen to anyone about "the right way" Be prepared for things to change...in terms of sleep patterns with bubs. Just because they're good from 3weeks to 6mths...doesn't mean they will be from 6mths onwards!

    Make time for yourself.
    Communicate with your DP.
    Don't sweat the small stuff.
    Make time count, because everything is such a blur, you'll wonder where did it all go

  7. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to WhiteTulips For This Useful Post:

    CDNinOZ  (04-06-2012),Lissy12  (04-06-2012),wrena  (04-06-2012)

  8. #6
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    Mackay
    Posts
    1,346
    Thanks
    620
    Thanked
    455
    Reviews
    5
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by 2Bboys View Post
    Quit worrying about what I 'should' be doing and be happy and confident enough to follow bubs lead. Way too much time spent worrying about doing things 'right'.
    This!!

    also...
    relax and go with the flow
    dont turn the light on for night feeds!!!
    Get a hug-a-bub and ditch the pram

  9. #7
    headoverfeet's Avatar
    headoverfeet is offline The truth will set you free, but first it will **** you off. -Gloria Steinem
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    18,954
    Thanks
    3,142
    Thanked
    4,892
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Wanting to stay home to have your baby isn't some crazy idea no one does anymore, its a perfectly safe way to give birth!

  10. #8
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Location
    Sydney
    Posts
    659
    Thanks
    241
    Thanked
    273
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Stop spending hours bouncing, rocking, swaying, killing yourself trying to get him to sleep, and just take him to bed with you.

    Don't waste so much time and energy trying to salvage your relationship with FOB, and just be the best mother you can be.


    Relax, don't sweat the small stuff, go with the flow and enjoy your son


    ETA: Stand up for yourself in hospital, and tell people to go the hell away!

  11. The Following User Says Thank You to nicoletta For This Useful Post:

    Bennos Mummy  (04-06-2012)

  12. #9
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    Sautéed with bacon
    Posts
    6,070
    Thanks
    271
    Thanked
    2,695
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Don't let him cry, trust your instincts.

  13. The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to faroutbrusselsprout For This Useful Post:

    2Bboys  (04-06-2012),ArthurDent  (04-06-2012),Bennos Mummy  (04-06-2012),Brandnewbeginnings  (04-06-2012),Lissy12  (04-06-2012),Miss Wonders  (04-06-2012)

  14. #10
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    292
    Thanks
    136
    Thanked
    40
    Reviews
    0
    - Dont let anyone (MIL, SIL ) pressure you into giving up breastfeeding, and when and if you start loosing supply it is OK to supp feed. ( breast and formula ) Dont let MIL convince you that it is confusing bub.

    - Dont let ANYONE pressure you into 'putting your baby down'. If you want to cuddle bub to sleep, or sit down on the couch with bubs on your chest- go for it! Dont let anyone say you are spoiling your baby by holding him all the time. You cant spoil a newborn.
    - Dont care so much about 'doing it right' - Just go with your heart.
    - Sleep when baby sleeps, the cleaning will eventually be done.
    - Ask hubby/partner for more massages ( they relieved ALOT of stress for me )
    - During pregnancy i wish i controlled my take out foods. I put on too many KG with bub. LOL
    - Wrap baby in a swaddle ( proper one ) from day one.
    - DONT INTRODUCE THE DUMMY!! ( Haha DP and i always regret this! )

  15. The Following User Says Thank You to Brandnewbeginnings For This Useful Post:

    Lissy12  (04-06-2012)


 

Similar Threads

  1. I'm back! I think I may have something this time
    By Natalieenaxx in forum Conception & Fertility General Chat
    Replies: 58
    Last Post: 19-11-2012, 14:44
  2. Choosing to go back to work part-time
    By bitterpure in forum Working Hubbers - Employed
    Replies: 10
    Last Post: 19-07-2012, 20:07
  3. If you could go back in time...
    By headoverfeet in forum General Chat
    Replies: 35
    Last Post: 29-02-2012, 13:50

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Mother and Baby Shop
Save $$$ during our Christmas Sale Mother and Baby Shop
Great prices on Schoenhut kids pianos, toys, baby clothing as well as big brands like Pigeon, NUK, Cherub Baby and many more. Sale starts on 1 November 2016 and ends on the 27 December 2016. Hurry! Place your order today!
sales & new stuffsee all
Bub Hub Sales Listing
HAVING A SALE? Let parents know about it with a Bub Hub Sales listing. Listings are featured on our well trafficked Sales Page + selected randomly to appear on EVERY page
featured supporter
Pea Pods Reusable Nappies
Pea Pods are the smart choice when it comes to choosing what's best for you, your baby and the environment. Affordable and simple to use, Pea Pods keep your baby dry & happy. Visit our website to find your nearest stockist or order online.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!