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    I've found the same thing in the past Jarrylee

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily of the Nile View Post
    If people are being rude or mean to you all the time it's because of what your projecting, it's not because you're skinny and they're jealous of your body.
    I think it's really vain to think that and not question yourself any further.
    I don't think that's very fair. I think that there are times when larger people might be jealous of someone who's slimmer.

    I'm not overweight or underweight (pretty average), and I've made judgments about people based on appearance before (larger and thinner people) - judgments that have been wrong, and unfair, and come more from my issues than anything they have done.

    I've heard people on both sides of the weight fence make comments about their opposites that aren't nice.

    What Jarylee says is just as valid as what a larger person says. Society always looks for those who don't blend in to the 'average', and finds fault with anything that stands out as different. (Different big, different small, different attractive, different unattractive).

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    I think people that are very skinny cop it just as bad as someone who is more than just a bit chubby. I've seen it happen.

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    I think it's very fair to say that if you 'think' large people are constistently being rude to you 'because' you're skinny then yes it's being vain.
    I think if it's happening all the time I'd question why and not immediately assume it's because "I'm skinny and they must be jealous of me" ???
    This is not directed only to the pp but to anyone who assumes thats why someone is being rude to you or smply staring at you. Not everyone has weight on their mind.

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    also back to the original point - whether you believe 70kg is healthy or whether average is okay or morbidly obese or has an ED or is naturally slim - it's not right to treat anyone like more or less of a person because of their size!

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    I've seen it too, Sassy. I've even copped it at a completely average weight (67 kgs and 167 cm tall). Told I was 'too small'. Incidentally my cholesterol was creeping up because to get to that weight is actually really difficult for me, I really had to work at it. I had to get back to 60-62 kilos for my health. So I'm back to being "too small"

    I think I'm just small framed at the top because, according to that picture you showed me the other day that was on news dot com, I'm 'fat' because my thighs touch. Can't win.

    I really wish people would realise that everyone is different. Everyone holds weight differently. I've heard some naturally thin people have a go at larger people... reality is sometimes the larger people have to work twice as hard to lose weight than someone who is naturally thin. Just as I find it twice as hard to put weight on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily of the Nile View Post
    If people are being rude or mean to you all the time it's because of what your projecting, it's not because you're skinny and they're jealous of your body.
    I think it's really vain to think that and not question yourself any further.
    Wow, that's mean. People get judged on appearance all the time. Large people, thin people, small chested, big chested... I hate how our society values 'main******' attractive people more highly and treat them like royalty, and how its acceptable to criticise body shapes. Its dehumanising.

    Overweight people cop it worse than many other body shapres for sure. But its cruel to tell someone its their fault they are treated rudely no matter if they are thin or larger...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily of the Nile View Post
    I think it's very fair to say that if you 'think' large people are constistently being rude to you 'because' you're skinny then yes it's being vain.
    I think if it's happening all the time I'd question why and not immediately assume it's because "I'm skinny and they must be jealous of me" ???
    This is not directed only to the pp but to anyone who assumes thats why someone is being rude to you or smply staring at you. Not everyone has weight on their mind.
    I guess it depends on your individual experience. I get what you're saying - that no one (big or small) can guess why someone might be looking at you strangely. It's easy to assume that it's because they're big and you're small, or vice versa.

    But if someone feels that way then I'd kind of give them the benefit of the doubt that they have a reason for saying it.

    E.g., they might have heard someone make a nasty comment, or they may have heard someone whisper to a friend, or they may have been on the receiving end of those types of comment before, so they are super sensitive about it.

    If I'm staring at someone then it might be because I love or hate their outfit. I might think that they are really big/ really small and it's not what I am used to seeing, so I look for a second longer. I may think they're gorgeous. I might love their hair. I might think they are the same size as me, and I look to see what they're wearing/ if it suits them and if it might suit me too.

    There could be all kinds of reasons. But it might be their weight. (And I'm saying that very honestly, not in any way to try to cause offence).

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    Rather than size or weight, wasn't "healthy" determined by *where* the fat sits on your body. I remember tv advertisements for waist measurement as a determining factor for being unhealthy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily of the Nile View Post
    I think it's very fair to say that if you 'think' large people are constistently being rude to you 'because' you're skinny then yes it's being vain.
    I think if it's happening all the time I'd question why and not immediately assume it's because "I'm skinny and they must be jealous of me" ???
    This is not directed only to the pp but to anyone who assumes thats why someone is being rude to you or smply staring at you. Not everyone has weight on their mind.
    She never said it's because they are jealous of her.

    A lot of larger people say they feel judged by people who are of small/average weight. Unless that person has flat out said something to them, we don't know for sure this is the reason either. But there's nothing wrong with feeling insecure about your weight, and feeling that people may be making incorrect judgements about you because of your weight. That's not vanity, it's a sad reflection of our society and its lack of acceptance of anything outside the norm.

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