So my mil wants to have the kids for the July holidays but after today I just don't know if I can do it she has a wood fire in the lounge and has the kettle boiling on it and I pointed out that it was dangerous but she said the fire is hot they will keep away. It is an enclosed wood stove but the kids can still walk to the side of it and pull the hot water down on themselves. I then tried to talk about the kids I had seen in the burns unit at my work but she started to talk about when her kids( my dh and his sisters) were in hospital, I said it's not exactly like being in there with a child with burns now is it. Now dinner is cooking and twice I have turned the handles of the pots on the wood fire around so they are not just sticking out for the kids to grab and all I can think about it what about when I am not here to watch them. My 2 yr old was left in the ute with the keys and went to play with them and then they left her and her sister in the tractor to play about while doing something to the bucket,all I could see was the farm safe advert and everything that was so wrong. I already worry like hell when the kids are away from me but now it's 3 times as much worry as my pil just won't take the steps to practice safety around the kids and I feel the only thing I can do is not allow the kids to stay without me being there. What would you do and is there any other way I can get thru to them without starting a huge argument?