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    Default Who else has got a partner that doesn't like having fun?

    This is a sook more than anything. I am just fed up with my DH. He never wants to enjoy a Friday or Saturday night with me. I mean he is here, and he is watching the football and busying himself tidying up the house. But he wont sit down and enjoy a drink with me. Ya know talk and stuff, just hang out together. And tomorrow night will be the same because he will be playing football on Sunday and wont want to do anything bc of the game the next day. And then the boring week starts again.

    And I am thinking to myself...what's the point of all this. I am totally and utterly not enjoying myself anymore.

    And yep, I've told him how I feel. But it gets me nowhere.

    Anyone else got a DH like this?

    Sigh

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    We kinda used to be the same, but after a lot of discussions, we have finally started watching movies together and will have a few drinks on a night that he isn't working. Not all the time, just maybe once a week type thing. Took a little while and it's a slow progress.

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    Hmmm quite possibly I do... DH sees relaxing as a waste of time... Too many jobs to do... And then when he does sit down i'm wrapped up in something else... Like now he's watching get smart and i'm online :$

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    I dunno, I feel like he doesn't want to hang out with me. He is in the front room sorting clothes now.

    I guess some people would love a DH that does all that...but when they would rather do that than hang out with their parter, i dunno, it just makes me sad

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    I can totally sympathize with you all. Except im the one cleaning and he is playing stupid computer games.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GypsyFortuneTeller View Post
    I guess some people would love a DH that does all that...but when they would rather do that than hang out with their parter, i dunno, it just makes me sad
    I know exactly how you feel WRT that.

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    My DH just doesn't like to sit down when there's stuff to be done. Is it just that he can't relax, rather than he's avoiding you? I know how you feel, I spend a lot of time alone in the evenings, kids asleep, DH working on renos, and me sitting watching TV or sewing or online.

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    Yep mines the same really over our boring relationship... Keep telling him I'm unhappy but he ignores it and we stay on the same path. Can't force them to want to be with us.. Wouldn't it just be nice if they wanted to be.

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    Tbh I have no idea why he does it. But here I am again by myself at night trying to convince myself its not personal.

    I dunno. You give the best years of your life to these DPs, give them kids, create a home, etc. And they just go and do what they want and pretend like you dont matter. And in the end, I guess I'm thinking - what was that all about?

    Sorry, just pretty upset atm. It's happened to many weeks in a row to be just an off day iykwim?

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    Quote Originally Posted by bellieellie View Post
    Yep mines the same really over our boring relationship... Keep telling him I'm unhappy but he ignores it and we stay on the same path. Can't force them to want to be with us.. Wouldn't it just be nice if they wanted to be.
    I totally could have written this. Hugs, I can really empathise.


 

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