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    Default Jealousy.....

    I'm having an issue at the moment with my dp and a female friend, let's call her T.

    Anyway a bit of background she is dp's brothers girlfriends sister, they all grew up in the same town and weren't close but all knew of each other and T had a crush on dp when they caught the school bus together, anyway years later dp's brother starts dating T's sister and are in our lives quite a bit.

    They all came up and stayed with us last weekend and the last two days. I noticed last weekend that dp and T were quite flirty with each other (in a friendly way) like making up stupid handshakes and giving each other cute nicknames, joking around lots, inside jokes. It's so stupid and I know it's in fun and I'm generally not a jealous person. Dp jokes around in similar ways with all of my mates and it never bothers me, I've always been so proud of the amount of trust between me and dp but now this tiny germ of jealousy has stuck in my mind and I can't stop thinking about it. I literally feel sick to my stomach with the thoughts going though my head.

    I've talked openly to dp about what I'm feeling and it hasn't made me feel any better at all

    I feel so stupid too because I really like T get along wonderfully with her and enjoy her company but I just can't stop this feeling and it's too the point where I don't even wanna leave them alone together.

    SIGH..... I don't even know if I want advice or what I just needed to get it out cos it's killing me.

    ps if you stuck it out and read (or understood) my ramblings then it's much appreciated.

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    *Hugs*

    I dont really have any advice for you, its awful when you can see the person you love connecting with someone else on that dangerous level.. It feels helpless to stop.

    I hope everything works ot and he knows he has something very special with you, something worth NOT throwing away for anything. xxooxxoo

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    (((hugs)))
    I know how this feels my DP and his brothers girlfriend muck around all the time mainly just stuff like playing pranks etc and walks past each other and gives one another a punch!! Anyway not long after I had dd3 I was very vunruable and jealousy came creeping in and actually came out aswell!! I told him I knew it was just playing around but I just couldn't help how I felt! And Also thought I may have felt that way as our relationship was a bit Rocky at the time!
    It took a few weeks for me to try and get past these feelings by just telling myself that it wasn't what I thought etc etc !!

    Has your DP told you that it's all in fun and that you have nothing to worry about ??

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    Thanks for your kind words. Yeah we had a big talk this morning and he told me it's just mucking around being silly and having a laugh and that I'm the only one for him and I have nothing to worry about. That sick feeling just wont go away, I've suffered anxiety in the past and I can feel it creeping back in,I had a panic attack last night and didn't fall asleep til 3am. I know I'm overreacting, I just can't stop thinking about, even when I talk about I feel stupid.


 

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