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    Hi broomdyke, I mean't my eggs aren't good (not having to get an egg donor), I only get a few eggs each cycle and then the quality hadn't been good, our first 3 cycles we only got 1 to transfer (chemical pregnancy). But a few things were changed and now we have 4 embies at the moment, out of my last 2 cycles, but they are of great quality and have been chromosomally tested, so I am pretty sure we will be successful now.

    But it did get me thinking of egg donors and using donor eggs, but again in Australia this is so hard to get, this is why I assumed sperm wouldn't be a problem, cause I can understand why a woman wouldn't want to donate eggs, to have to go through all the IVF etc... but a man, lol easy But like you say, our rules are different.

    The overseas rule is in my opinion better. I do get why Australia has such strict rules but we don't change with the times.

    I just wanted to put it out there with the IVF, it really isn't so bad (I know before I did it I thought it would be horrific) and if there is such a shortage in the long run it may be cheaper.

    You can also get 20% back at tax time for anything over a certain amount.

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    You can also get donor eggs from overseas just like sperm I've seen it on the website my donor originally donated his sperm at.

    I have no problem with donating eggs, embryos, when I'm finished but my partner is frightened of the child blaming us for something that could happen in their life and I guess its like adoption. I tend to think that everything happens in ones life is for a reason so if something terrible did happen it was to make them stronger or able to deal with a situation that would arise later on in their lives. If the child would want to know me, I would not deny them of that and I hope my donor feels the same way. I found out recently our donor already reached his family limit in America!!!!!!

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    Hey Scarlet, Yeah for myself and my partner is was cheaper, easier and less invasive than IVF. My doctor would say "inject yourself with this on saturday night, come in on monday, strategically place the missing ingredient and there you are TWW. Also I do not have any "issues" with my reproductive system, apparently my body is baby making machine. The reason I am telling you this is because when I had my IUI's last year, yes, the rules were different regarding sperm and donations, but also, the rules with accessing IVF are clear. Let's say I walked into a doctor and told him/her that I wanted chemotherapy. He/she of course is going to ask if I have cancer? I would then say "no i don't have cancer, I just wanted to try chemo" It is the same with IVF. Unless you are deemed to have fertility issues you cannot access ART or IVF. My doctor required me, as required by law, to attempt to conceive "naturally" first in order to gain access to ART. You have to be deemed as requiring the use of ART in order to get access to it. Now being same-sex we obviously cannot declare we have being trying "naturally" and that it just doesn't seem to be working lol. So to over come the red-tape, we attempted a couple of IUI's and he recorded "unexplained infertility" so that I could access ART. This is the reason I tried IUI's first. Yes it's unfair to be declined treatments that we know we would have a better chance at falling pregnant but those are the rules..... I hope this clears some things up for you a little? Good luck on your journey, it looks like it has been a long road for you..... *baby dust your way*

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    What state do you live in? I'm in qld and never had to try naturally first

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    Hi lilbabysteps, thanks for that. I feel in a good spot now, got some embies frozen of great quality, just needed a lot of tweaking to get there.

    I agree it must be harder to lie and say that you have been trying for awhile, but it doesn't seem fair at all. I know a lot of girls who haven't tried long or who's husbands work away a lot and they get approved, it sounds wrong to me. You do the right thing by being honest and I rarely see FS saying the 'unexplained infertile' couples to try IUI first, most go straight to IVF these days. I understand if there wasn't a shortage on the sperm, each state must be different. I am cycling in Sydney though.

    Broom- I am the same, if we ever got to the stage that we had frozen embies, we weren't going to use, I would like to donate also, but my dh has said a firm no. He too doesn't want to get the knock on the door at 18 with the full brother or sister to our kids. I have to say, that since I asked around to family and friends about it, was so surprised that no one has said, that would be great. Sort of has made me re think it. I don't know if dh will ever come around though.

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    lilbabysteps: we're in qld and we were never told we had to try IUI first before being allowed to go straight to IVF. I mean we did do 4 IUIs first but that was just to see if we'd get lucky on a cheaper option first....but even up front we were told we could go straight to IVF if we wanted to.

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    I Had a classic moment yesterday...
    Went to Medicare to claim a few things from out first (failed ) cycle. We had already put both of us on my Medicare card, and set up the safety net etc....
    So I hand over our receipts, and the lady opens our file... and then starts asking if my partner is still a full time student??? We were a bit puzzled, so the lady starts explaining how we can only have a combined safety net if KA is under 25 and a full time student. It is about this time that I click that the lady thinks that KA is my dependant (daughter maybe, sister I hope)??
    No we are partners, and all the invoice I just handed over have IVF all over them?

    Makes me LOL

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    Will anybody who has used donor sperm be registering with the donor sibling registry? Or a similar site?

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    Quote Originally Posted by broomdyke View Post
    What state do you live in? I'm in qld and never had to try naturally first
    Yeah this is what my "previous FS" told me I had to do first. Yet another reason I EXTREMELY GLAD I changed FS. He said by law, we are supposed to be deemed infertile to gain access to treatments. Either he is such a goody too shoes and didn't venture outside the strict rules of ART or he is the biggest **** I have ever met and I am the biggest fool. Should I bother chasing this up?

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    From what I understand (and it has been about 2 years since we started our IVF journey, so things may have changed in the intervening period) being gay (or 'socially infertile') does not allow you to access Medicare benefits for IVF.
    To access Medicare benefits, you have to be medically infertile. This can be assessed by you FS because of any number of medical reasons backed up by testing, like PCOS, tube issues, or hormonal problems (which is why you should be tested for anything you can think of) or by trying to conceive naturally for 2-3 cycles.
    You can also access IVF without being medically infertile, but you will receive no Medicare benefits, and will have to pay all associated costs OOP.
    In saying this, there are differences in the ability/willingness of different FS to make the declaration that someone is medically infertile.....
    These are Medicare rules, so are theoretically not influenced by the state you reside or take treatment in.
    It would be worth asking you FS, or looking into a group like PLP or GLHV or your state equivalent who may be able to help you :-)

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