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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily of the Nile View Post
    Doesn't the 1st year of marriage have the highest divorce rate? It doesn't surprise me though, I know a lot of people who divorced after the 1st year. Reasons were getting married for the wrong reasons, been together a long time and settling for that person or staying with the person out of habit but not being in love, not communicating enough about what they want, when to have kids, even where to live, never living together before marriage, fighting too much over the small things to the point they can't be around each other.
    Gees lots of reasons, people break up everyday, I don't think getting married is a fail safe way to a relationship. People do get swept up in the idea of marriage but that relationship wasn't truly working well before it.
    I think you nailed it on the head with some of the answers

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    I came across this picture and I do know every situation is different hence apologising in advance if anyone takes offence to it. It was just something I wanted to share.

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    I have a very dear friend who has recently left a marriage of more than ten years. I'd hate for anyone to assume she took the easy way out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NancyBlackett View Post
    I have a very dear friend who has recently left a marriage of more than ten years. I'd hate for anyone to assume she took the easy way out.
    This is how I felt. It was awful, and I will forever feel as though I failed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily of the Nile View Post
    I also think women are more independent and don't stay in unhappy marriages. They work, have careers, money and have the confidence to live a better life, unlike say my mother who was a sahm, no education, never really worked and 4 kids no way of supporting them alone and no support services like they have today. It was easier to stay put then build a new single life, they didn't even work on marriages more but they just accepted it. It's a different time, so I don't think the quality of relationships have changed.
    I agree.

    There were no benefits in my mum's day. Not that they're much these days but it is an option.

    My mum's first husband died of cancer when she was 7 months pregnant with their third child. She got absolutely no help from the government.

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    I was married for about 7 years. It was not a happy relationship, we argued frequently. I realised I was never goign to be happy in that relationship. Why should I be unhappy for the rest of my life for the sake of a marriage? We separated. About 18 months later I met DF and fell head over heals in love. For a while I had a husband and a boyfriend I've been with DF for 8 years now and I still want to marry him

    My brothers in-laws recently celebrated their (brace yourselves) 75th wedding anniversary!

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    Amongst other things I think a lot of people go into marriage with very unrealistic expectations. (That is more in relation to divorce in the early years).

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    I don't think the higher rates are a horrible thing. A lot of the older generation I know shouldn't have stayed married as long as they did but became trapped. I don't think that you should just walk away the minute things get tough, or without really giving it a good go to resolve things, but am also glad people don't feel the need to hang in there to the grim death, even when things are bad and not showing signs of improving.

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    My marriage ended when my XH had an affair. I believe it could have been fixable - but I'm glad we didn't try. I feel much much happier and am glad to say I WAS married not that I AM married. He wasn't the right person for me. I just wish I'd followed my instincts sooner. For the record we were together 11 years married for 5 of them.
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