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    But like lil miss has pointed out, it doesnt tend to be so overt, ie i couldnt imagine say a 28yo scoffing and rolling her eyes at a 38yo in a public baby changroom for example. Whereas 18yo do cop overt scoffing, rolling eyes, nasty comments. But maybe 35+ mothers do get inappropriate comments from strangers too? I dont know, i havent been one :P

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    I'm surprised that under 25 is classified as a young parent.

    Anyway, I think there are positives and negatives to being a 'young' and 'old' mum. I had DS at 22 and am rediscovering my freedom while I am still in my 20s (just!)

    I will have one more baby, but this time around I will be an 'old' mum. No more dreams of early retirement, disposable income, sleep ins for some time once I have my bub.

    Maybelline, I don't want DS to become a parent at 18. Only because he's going to be a rocket scientist, nobel prize winning high achiever!

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    Can't believe some of the judgment!

    My mum had me at 17, at least I grew up knowing that to judge someone based on something as irrelevant as the age they become a mother just makes the judge look like a fool.

    I never wanted for anything. My mother worked her *** off to make sure I had all I need and then a bit more. I'm glad I had a young mum.

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    I had ds1 at age 17 ds2 at 19and dd at 21 and I'm now turning 24 in July and get a few looks but I tend to ignore them don't let them get to you I'm sure ur a good mum so all u need to worry about is u and ur kids

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    I like the quote "what other people think of me is none of my business".

    I look at young people with kids and think it's lovely.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chookylaa View Post
    on the flip side, does anyone think first time older mums (35+) get judged as well?
    For being career driven or infertile or travelling or enjoying their youth to much to settle down and reproduce?

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    Yes I do think they get judged aswell (I to feel like a pp that it's not quite to the same depths as judging a young mother) I feel for them aswell. I don't judge them at all. They have done what worked for them. My mother and father were mid 30's when they had kids. I also have 4 best friends in their 40's with very young children and I am gobsmacked at their energy (I wish I had it and I am 23 lol)

    I find those who do the judging the most are elderly or those who don't fit the stereotypical brackets but then again I may be wrong

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    I don't think older mothers get judged on the same level as young mums.
    If they are judged it's certainly not the open, socially acceptable judgement that young mothers cop!

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    Yeh... im 25 and have a 1yo and I get the looks all the time

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    These threads always turn out like this

    I judge too. But I judge on actions, not on stereotypes. If people see me doing something wrong by my kids, judge away (and I doubt anyone would...) But don't judge me for my age. It has nothing to do with it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ToughLove View Post
    The only way you can avoid 'young parent' judgement is by not becoming a young parent.

    There's valid reasons why young parents are looked down on, and it's just a fact of life that won't easily slide from society.
    That's a bit harsh these valid reasons don't apply to all young parents the people that look down on young parent need to mind there own business and stop being so judgmental not all young parents are in it for money reasons or whatever reasons people think I became a young mum at age 17 due to having perthies disease which means my hip bone grinds and I'll need a hip replacement and if I had of waited to have kids my hip would have had more wear from day to day living so it was what my dh and I decided .And if I had my time again I wouldn't change a thing


 

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