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    Default Sick of being judged, how old do i have to be for it to stop?

    Just wanted to ask all young mums out there how old were they when people stopped looking down on them for having children at a young age? I had my daughter at 20 and my son at 23 Im neally 24 and i still get looks and even had people shake there heads and snicker comments at me!
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    Hmm do you look heaps young? I had DD1 at 19.. Am due to have another now at 24.. I have never noticed anyone judging me baded on my age.. But then i dont look young... People always assume im older... Maybe that is why? Or maybe i just have my head too far up my a*** and dont give a flying f*** what people think, so i dont notice the sniggers?

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    Unfortunately I don't ever see it stopping. I had DD at 22 and there will always be the same age gap

    Some people will always continue to look down on young mums but hey. I don't feel I need to prove myself to everyone with those views so just try and ignore it.

    I have managed to find lots of people who don't care that I am young and are very supportive (other mothers included). I think you just need to surround yourself with people like that and ignore the ones who look down on you.

    Easier said than done tho

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    I had DS at 23 and DD at 24, the only time I noticed this was when I went to a mothers group and there was a massive age divide. I was the only one there under about 33 and I felt very judged by the older mothers. They too had just had their first but treated my like I knew nothing. I was very frustrated, because as far as I am concerned I had my children at a really good age, I didn't think I was a young mum at all...

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    I was 19 when we started TTC, 20 started ivf, 22 daughter born, 23 pregnant again. I can't say I've ever received any comments or looks. I'm quite mature for my age though.

    Do you look super young?

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    i was pregnant at 18 and had DD at 19 - i had my DS at 21... Yeah i get more looks at the school when i go to pick them up...

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    i had my ds at 17, he is now 5, and i have a 3yr old DD. i dont get judged so much in passing by (i must look old lol) but when i tell people my age and ds's age i get it sometimes. i just dont care anymore lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Super Trooper View Post
    Hmm do you look heaps young? I had DD1 at 19.. Am due to have another now at 24.. I have never noticed anyone judging me baded on my age.. But then i dont look young... People always assume im older... Maybe that is why? Or maybe i just have my head too far up my a*** and dont give a flying f*** what people think, so i dont notice the sniggers?

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    OP, I think it's (unfortunately) human nature to judge about EVERYTHING!! Just look at some of the threads on BH I had my LO at 31 years old and I found myself in situations where I felt I was being judged... I think you just have to shrug it off and remind yourself that if you don't know them personally, then their opinions don't matter!!

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    Your post has made me think! I just found out I'm pregnant today and DF and I are both 22...

    I think we'll probably be judged because we dress kind of young. By that I mean tee shorts, hoodies, jeans and sneakers. A lot of the 'grown up' mums I know tend to dress 'older' or more 'maturely'. Cardigans, wraps, tailored pants, etc. MBA total generalisation but just something I've noticed.

    Pay them no heed! Let them judge. I know plenty of younger people who unfortunately judge older mums for their age too. Just an uunfortunate cycle of judgement perpetuated by women.

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    Once your children start making you look old!!!
    Eta for me this is happening at 24 eek!! I just don't dress like I used to.. I find myself opting for more modest clothes and have noticed some er.. smile lines
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