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    I m/c at 14 weeks due to d/v from EXH.

    With my now DP we waited until 12 weeks (actually I think it was 13 weeks) before we told anyone. However we let the secret slip to a few very close people

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    Quote Originally Posted by finally expecting View Post
    if I lost the baby I would need their love and support and for them not to make upsetting comments.
    With my first pregnancy we didn't tell many, only a select couple. I made it to 7 weeks when I started bleeding and subsequently lost the baby a week later. It was extremely hard telling those close to me that hey I was pregnant but am not anymore. But then it would have been just as hard or harder to have people asking how I was going and have to tell them.

    With this pregnancy I told a few close people at 7 weeks when I had a scan and everything was going ok. I was extremely anxious that something was going to go wrong so needed their support. We didn't announce it to everyone until 12 weeks.

    Am now 18 weeks and have told everyone I am friends with and family but haven't let anyone put anything on Facebook still as a part of me is still waiting for something to go wrong.

    It really is a personal decision that only you can decide what will make you comfortable.

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    I told Mum and Dad and pretty much everyone we have regular contact with early on around 6 and a half weeks. I also let Mum tell anyone she wanted that we were expecting (since she would have anyway, but would have been upset at letting it slip ).

    I waited till the 20 week Morph scan to put it on face book, it felt to soon until after my scan and then I felt it was ok to post about it I didn't feel like sharing a loss with distant friends and family, but I don't mind with people I see all the time (I was also looking pretty awful and a fair few people who spend any time at all with me were wondering if I was pregnant anyway ).

    I must admit though that it did make me a bit anxious to have people know that early on, next time I will probably wait a bit longer. It was just so unexpected and something we had waited for for so very long that I couldn't keep it secret

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    Quote Originally Posted by LifeInShadesOfGrey View Post
    I m/c at 14 weeks due to d/v from EXH.

    With my now DP we waited until 12 weeks (actually I think it was 13 weeks) before we told anyone. However we let the secret slip to a few very close people
    Sorry for your loss. What is d/v from EXH? sorry.
    FYI OP I lost a baby at 6 weeks (only my mum and dad and DP of course knew) and then fell again straight away and told everyone at 12 weeks. There is of course a risk but its low.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hopefulmama2b View Post
    Sorry for your loss. What is d/v from EXH? sorry.
    FYI OP I lost a baby at 6 weeks (only my mum and dad and DP of course knew) and then fell again straight away and told everyone at 12 weeks. There is of course a risk but its low.
    I think it means domestic violence from ex husband

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    I told

    BH @ 3+4
    2 besties @ 3+5
    Sisters, dad @ b/w 4-5wks?
    DH immediate family @ 6+3 (after u.s)

    then told everyone else just short of 13wks

    After they detect a heartbeat you chance of miscarry drops to b/w 7-2% I was told (depending on how many wks HB is picked up).

    After 12wks it drops to 1%

    Tell when you feel comfy, my general thing was the ppl I told early I would want their support anyway if something was to go wrong.

    For the rest at 12ish wks I told them because I needed to start believing it was real and have faith in my body so I took the leap - for myself not them if that makes sense.

    Im 17+2 and still freaking out a bit but so far it has been going well.

    Good luck with everythign.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lumpy Melon View Post
    I think it means domestic violence from ex husband
    Oh! Oh sorry LISOG! Thats awful!
    Thanks LM

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    i told family around 7 weeks.

    then everyone else got told this week, after my 12 week ultrasound.

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    We waited until 12wks with our first, parents were o/s so they didn't even know as we wanted to tell them in person when they returned at that 12wk mark. Unfortunately that pregnancy ended at 12.5wks...had seen a healthy hb prior

    With DD we told parents and siblings almost immediately then everyone else after we got all clear at 20wk scan. Huge fear was there after first loss

    Id say if you've had multiple scans and all is well, everything should be ok to share. Congrats on your pregnancy!

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    We told our parents at 5 weeks, I had a MC at 6 weeks last year and was glad I told them, their support was great. This time we also told them at 5 weeks and we're waiting until 12 weeks to tell the rest of the family and friends.


 

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