What did you hope for out of life? - Single Parents

[HugsBunny]

I wanted a man who loved me in a way that never made me question it. I wanted that man to be a part of a team with me, to face this life and world together. I wanted children who were loved and put first above all else. I didn't want to be a single mum.

I wanted a nice house, to travel before having kids, to be comfortable and in love.

Then reality hit

[designertaste]

I wanted a man who loved me in a way that never made me question it. I wanted that man to be a part of a team with me, to face this life and world together. I wanted children who were loved and put first above all else. I didn't want to be a single mum.

I wanted a nice house, to travel before having kids, to be comfortable and in love.

Then reality hit

Haha yep, that's what I wanted too! Reality hit hard.... Too hard... Now I'm a single parent who still dreams of those things.

[bubbabailey]

How did my life turn out? Crap compared to what I thought it would..
I wanted to live out in the country, live off the land with a few perks and I wanted a farmer guy who thought the world of me....
Well, I fell pregnant at 15 then was forced to have an abortion by my mother :-(
I went on to finish school, only just, and then went into childcare, I had baby on the brain,
At 19 I met the most amazing man!! We got engaged and were totally in love! I had found my Romeo, hahaha all fool me, that ended because we were young. We were on and off for 4 years. In between that I met DDs dad, had DD and then split with DDs dad, DDs dad and I were on and off for 3 years and once again I got forced down the isle on June 18 last year 6 months pregnant with DS.
We separated 6 months later having never lived together, is this how I thought my life would turn out or how I thought it would go? No way!

[Willow]

jagamoe: All the best with reconciling with your ex and good on you for going back to study. I hope things work out with him for you.
singlemumma82: Congratulations, you're amazing!
Maia: I loved reading your post and so much of it was exactly what I feel!
Izy: Having my own home is probably the only goal I ever had in life. I think mostly that goal was because I have a strong need for stability.
mum2bubba: I don't mind being a single mother either. I have found that it's easier than having a step father in my kids life. Ideally having THE father would have been my choice but THE father was a horses a!rse - stealing that one off a pp coz I'm so impressed with it hahaha.
Bunnyhugs: Get me a tissue. I couldn't have said it better :'( I am sure you will find someone one day <3
designer: I don't dream about it much, waste of emotional energy. But yer, I'm with you and I've been doing a bit of dreaming the last week or so.
bubbabailey: At least you got to have a baby! I keep reminding myself that at least I have the most beautiful children seeing as I didn't get the daddydearest to go along with the package!

I went away this weekend to a thing one of my kids are interested in. We stayed in a tent and it p!ssed down all weekend but that didn't get in the way of it being a fantastic weekend - much to my surprise! I'm so damn tired now though. And seeing as I'm having this little woe is me week about how I would have liked to have someone to share it all with, now would be a nice time to settle down with a big hug and a warm cup of tea and chill out. At least my girlfriend popped in and we caught up and I could share with her about the weekend.

You ladies are all so amazing - and I'm not just saying that. I have trouble thinking of myself as amazing, but I know how hard you all work looking after your kids because I work that hard, and I think you're amazing so now I'm going to try and apply some of that amazing to myself.

<3

[HugsBunny]

Haha yep, that's what I wanted too! Reality hit hard.... Too hard... Now I'm a single parent who still dreams of those things.

Maybe one day huh? I have someone now who worships the ground I walk on. I hope this one lasts the distance.

[GluttonForPunishment]

Well, my whole life as an adult man was to be a partner. I was with the one woman for around 12 years and the plan was always "wife, kids, house and dog." When that fell apart I was in another relationship very quickly and had her, her kids, my kids and cats - close enough.

Now that I'm single, I've gone through a period where I have just completely lacked direction - this was never meant to be the plan! But it's odd - today I've woken up realising how much I have. This isn't the plan, no. I'm kind of winging it and making it up as I go right now. And I'm sort of the opposite from TheBoys&me right now - for the first time I DON"T have room for someone in my life. I'm enjoying being single and that's a totally foreign concept for me!

Go me! Power to the people! And for those who haven't emerged out of the black hole yet. I've been there and I'm not totally out of the woods yet. But I can see the light at the end of this tunnel now! And I know that you all will too!

[Willow]

...my whole life as an adult man...

I read that several times with all sorts of she was a woman and now he's a man, and vice versa, before I wrapped my small pea brain around it so now I'm cacking myself lol. I didn't realise you were an adult man and I'm hoping you were a man prior to the adultedness coming along lol. Either that or you had a successful sex change and alls good - okay, I'm going to stop digging my hole hahahaha.

Well go you with your optimism. Enough with the raining on my pity party parade with it lol. Just joking by the way.

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I can't say I've always wanted to share stuff with someone but at the moment I feel like life is slipping me by and by the time I find time to meet someone I'm going to be 100 in the shade and so will anyone I meet and it just kind of seems like all this youth is being wasted on work, kids, housework etc.

That said, I have a crush on someone so I'm enjoying the crush as it's not something I've felt in over seven years!

[GluttonForPunishment]

Adult man - yes. Grown up - hell no!!

I hope you find happiness in whatever your situation Willow!

[GluttonForPunishment]

And I love how so many still don't realise I'm a guy.

I am! Really!!

[Willow]

Oh sure you are. Now. After you had that little operation haha.

I probably sound a whole heap more despondent than I really am but thank you.