I dont know if I am posting this in the right section but im sure a mod or someone can move it if its not.
Anyway, my story is that I have been with my DP now for 6 years. He has a son to a previous relationship who he has had primary care of since DSS was 6 months old.
DSS sees me as his mum and I see him as my son. However this is not the issue.
I have wanted a baby for a long time and finally DP has come around to the idea and thinks we are ready, not only emotionally but we are in the best financial position we have ever been in.
DP is excited and told my parents, who were great about it, it will be their first bio grandchild, but unfortunately DP's mother, well she is not so excited.
Whenever it has been brought up previously she always finds excuses why we should wait and this time is no exception. "Just wait 6 more months" she says, "you will be in an even better position financially". Everything to her is about money. She has even gone so far as to say that if we continue TTC now and not when she thinks we should that we need not ask for her help when I go back to work.
DP has told her that we wont need her help, that my mum has agreed to help out once I go back to work.
Currently she helps us with DSS, i.e picks him from school for us, she has said she will continue to do that, but that she doenst want to help with the new baby.
There was a time before when we were TTC and MIL got in DP's ear and convinced him to wait, I just hope it doesnt happen this time.
I dont know what to do, normally my MIL and I are very close and i dont want this to come between us, but unfortunately i feel like it will.