I really need some advice.
This is my first pregnancy, I'm 25, and am currently 34 weeks pregnant.
As my due date approaches, I'm starting to get nervous and I figured developing a birth plan would at least help me feel a little in control, as I don't really know what to expect.
So to get the basic picture, I have a vision in my head of me labouring at home for as long as possible with only my DP there supporting me, then going to the hospital with just my DP and the midwife present during the birth.
Then, I was wanting a day or two to ourselves when we bring the baby home, so us three can bond as a family, before we receive any visitors.
Now, what I didn't realise is, there's a whole lot of people that have been put out by my "plan".
Seeing as this will be the first grandchild, my mother is hurt that I don't want her there during the labour or birth, while my sister is sad too, but at least supportive of my decision. My DP really wanted my MIL to be there during the birth, but waiting in the waiting room. My mother and sister also wanted to be able to at least wait in the waiting room. My mother and MIL also planned on coming to the house to cook and clean for me when we brought the baby home.
Now, I know I'm lucky to be surrounded by so many loving people, but, I cannot imagine anything worse than being surrounded by lots of people while I'm in pain and at my most vulnerable. And, I don't know if I'd be able to focus properly knowing that there are 3 people sitting in the waiting room for me... What if it takes hours and hours? I really don't want to have to worry about anyone else (everyone says "you don't have to", but how can you not?).
To make things worse, my mother and sister live in a different state, so they can't exactly pop in, or see the baby on a regular basis, so the birth is really important to them.
I feel like I'm letting my DP, mother, sister, and MIL down, and I'm starting to feel so bad at this point I'm ready to throw my hands up and just let everyone do what they want.
Does anyone have any ideas on how I could maybe do what I want and keep everyone else happy?