Need To vent! BM wont allow SD to celebrate her sisters Birthday!

**SpaghettiMonster** · 29-05-2012 11:21

Originally Posted by In My Stride

Do the girls have a shared Grandma who's in the picture? If so get Grandma onto the case, trust me those old devils can scare the bejeebers outta anyone and make all BM's feel bad

Not all grandmothers. My mil wont stand up for us at all and just excepts when ex says or does things to hurt my partner all because she says lifts too short for conflict. Even if ex accuses DP of some very nasty things mil just smiles and nods.

**rainbow road** · 29-05-2012 11:24

That sucks. I would have been devastated if I'd not been allowed to go to the first bday of my brother or something.

Can you get SD to write her mum a letter saying how much she wants to go to your DDs party if she's afraid of talking to her?

Poor SD!

**Benji** · 29-05-2012 11:30

If it's not your designated weekend per the court order, could you have another picnic with them both when it is your time with SD?

As a 'bio mum' if I trusted my child's father and step-mother enough for them to watch him while I'm sick I'd absolutely let him attend his sibling's birthday picnic unless it conflicted with something equally important on my side of the family.

**poppyseed** · 29-05-2012 11:43

Yea that really sucks

cld u bring up some of the nice things u guys have done, not in a "well we did this for u now do this for us" but more of a "we have always been accommodating for u and sd because she is important to us, if u feel the same way surely this is something u can let her do?"
We were lucky in the fact dh's ex let his 2 girls attend our dd's 1st bday. We got them for the wkend but had to cancel the party and then we got them again the fortnight after for the party

actually not lucky because they're his girls too, they adore their little sister and really wanted to be there - by rights that is exactly what shld have happened

dh's ex use to be like the ex in ur lives but now the girls are getting older, they are becoming very vocal about what they want (they are 11 and 13)

**Huni&Coco** · 29-05-2012 11:50

Awww poor sd

sorry i don't have any advice but i sure do hope bm comes around or that your able to throw that lil party next time she is around.

**mystical mumma** · 29-05-2012 11:53

How sad. What a low life BM.

We have to deal with a pathetic BM too, she won't allow dss to spend time with his step brother on his birthday as apparently my we are not his family.

No advice, big hugs, and know your not alone in being stuck with having someone ruin your plans, dictate everything and use you.

**SpaghettiMonster** · 29-05-2012 13:17

I feel like we should start a support group for those of us dealing with horrible BM of our step children. Then maybe as a group we could go to their houses and tell them how insane they are being.

**Meags82** · 29-05-2012 13:34

Hugs to both you and your step daughter. I have a psycho BM who refuses to allow contact on any days not court ordered but if she wants an extra day off etc is more than happy to ask. We always end up having 2 birthdays, 2 Santa visits (Santa comes overnight then again at midday whilst we are picking up SD's. It sucks

**designertaste** · 29-05-2012 15:19

Originally Posted by SpaghettiMonster

I feel like we should start a support group for those of us dealing with horrible BM of our step children. Then maybe as a group we could go to their houses and tell them how insane they are being.

Lol! I'm up for that!!