When hubby lost his weight I had gotten really upset (I was pregnant and hormonal) ... His father died at the age of 36 ... I told hubby I loved him
No matter what , I didn't care if he was twice the size!! But if he died how can I love him then? How would I raise our kids?? It set of a light bulb for him ... Hmmm maybe I need to have that convo again.
I have put on 10kg with each of my pregnancies and now preg with 3rd ... Honestly I don't know how to lose weight!
Well as Dr Phil says.. Putting someone down about their weight won't help them lose it. Only thing you can do is try to encourage him to exercise with you.. At the end of the day though.. He needs to be ready and want to help himself :-(
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My DH has a sleeping study this week as his snoring has become so bad in the last two months that we now sleep in separate rooms. I recorded DH on my phone as he thought that I might have been overreacting about how loud, and more annoying uneven,his snoring had become.
Your DH needs to get a referral to a sleep clinic who may or may not suggest weight loss as well as other things.
As for encouraging him to lose weight I find, as an overweight person, that advice, even well meaning, from someone who has lost a lot of weight as preaching (bit like a reformed smoker or drinker) so try and back off and let the medical professionals tell him about losing weight. Also if you do the shopping just do not buy junk food and if he complains tell him that if wants it he can go buy it.
I can completely recommend having a sleep study. My father and SIL have both been found to have apneoa, and were both terrible snorers. Now both of them use CPAP devices at night, which stops the snoring completely and, more importantly, stops the apneoa. Every time a person has a apneoic episode they are depriving their body of oxygen, which of course is terrible for the brain and heart, and actually reduces life span.
I would suggest a sleep study for your DH, play up that you are concerned that he may have apneoa, which is very bad for his health and you are worried. This way he doesn't feel as bad about the snoring and you are not hassling him about his weight.
CPAP machines these days are as close to silent as you can get, so I can assure you would be able to get a decent night sleep if he is wearing it next to you.
I am a sleep technologist and see thus all the time. Couples come in at their wits end, sleeping in separate rooms and feeling resentful.
A referral to a sleep clinic would definitely be a good idea. They will monitor his sleep and check out his snoring and his leg movements. If he doesn't like the idea of spending a night in hospital then he can do a take home study
If you have any questions about what's involved and the types of treatments available let me know
Thanks so much everyone, I felt a bit silly posting about it but im just at my wits end. Of course on my first day back at work my DS chooses to wake every hour. Of course DH sleeps soundly through that. he is still snoring pleasantly, DS is in bed blowing raspberries through the monitor and I am trying to get ready and have a coffee. I will PM you Giggle! When I get home from work. Then go straight to sleep. Haha. Thanks everyone x
I have restless leg syndrome and I do feel sorry for DP sometimes as my legs can shoot out a very sharp and quick jerk at times and he'll often cop the blow. Good thing for me is that my restless leg often plays up when I am awake and its due to my iron definciency. But it can get very bad and painful for both me and him.
Why not make another bedroom (not the lounge) and sleep in there. My aunty and uncle sleep in seperate bedrooms as my uncle is a very very bad snorer. Its so extremely loud that their way of solving it was having seperate bedrooms either side of the house.
I don't think there is any problems with sleeping in seperate beds especially if it means that both people will wake up and be nice and refreshed.
We dont have another bedroom I wish we did. I spoke to him on the phone and explained it to him and have asked him to go to GP tomorrow to get a referral fingers crossed! Thank you so much everyone. I really appreciate it. I'm okay now. Until tonight. Hehehe.
give the earplugs a go, if only till you get in to a clinic.
i have a 7 month old and wake for her - think it must just be mother's attuned to that pitch/cry.
also have a nearly 10 year old son and have been wearing earplugs since before he was born. only once in the 10 years has my husband had to wake me to get up for him!
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