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    I have photos, jewellery and letters from exes. I wouldn't get rid of them and if a current partner expected me to I suspect they wouldn't stick around long. Everyone has a history.

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    I threw out everything, including my engagement ring.
    Really should have hocked it though...

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    I have some photos of DS' dad & I together and DD's dad & I together for the kids when they're older - everything else has been thrown. When a relationship ends I give myself time to heal, then toss everything. I don't like the reminders

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    I'm of the opinion that it is a form of betrayal for either party to have them.

    Ok, I understand if there are photos of weddings/children's birth. Keeping that for the sake of the child.

    But my DH still had photos of just his ex by herself, and that is not on in my books.

    She did nothing right by him & they were not photos of them at any special events.

    I gave all photos of my ds with his father and that side of his family to FOB I feel it is his responsibilty to maintain memories for the sake of ds
    In the same way I keep photos for his sake of my side of the family.

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    I've kept all photos. In fact, DH would be horrified if I threw them out, as he is against throwing out any photos at all (as am I)!

    He has no jealousy issues, and views it as a record of the past. It was of that time, and means nothing more. I feel the same about his old photos.

    I think if either party gets upset about it then it's a tricky one, but if both are okay with it then there's no problem in keeping anything.

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    I culled a heap of photos and got rid of sentimental things like cards and letters. I kept a few photos of events, holidays or gatherings where we were together. They're in albums in the cupboard. No big deal.

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    I still have my wedding album from my previous marriage, mum keeps it in her attic. Ex DH and I had an amicable break up so no bad memories, it's part of my life that im not unhappy about.

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    I kept some things, threw others. Mainly cards and stuff. I did throw out some things I am kind of regretting now, that I could have kept for the kids. I keep all photos though. I don't really believe in completely erasing history, especially because I have been in a relationship almost non-stop since 16. I wouldn't have any photos left!

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    We both have photos and gifts from our ex's. they were part of our lives, and we arent going to pretend those years didnt happen

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    I keep all photos of exs and any important gifts.
    They are memories, they where part of my life.
    I wouldn't throw out photos of my best friends even tho we aren't close anymore so to me it no different. They shaped who I am today, I learnt for our relationships.
    I would never throw them out I would not expect anyone who I was with to throw them out. It's not my place to do that and if someone asked me to do that I don't think I could have a serious relationship with them especially since I'm friends with most of my exs.


 

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