My DD (Mia) is 3 and just had her report card day.
One of the comments we received was her assertiveness. During playtime, if other kids snatched her toys or take things from her, Mia just lets them. Doesn't make a big deal about it and went onto other things. I wish I can read what's in her mind So when this happen, often her teachers would have to intervene. Most times, Mia gets "bullied" or be taken advantage of other kids because they know my girl wouldn't mind or make a fuss about it.
I suppose there's a bit of good and bad here but I'm not too sure.
On hindsight, when Mia was 2.5 years old there was this one time at playground. Mia was on the swings and another bigger girl wanted a turn. Mia didn't budge so the big girl started pushing her shoulders. That's when I went to both of them and told the big girl that it is not nice to push people because it hurts. We don't hurt people. All the while noticing that Mia is also listening to this. Also adding that Mia can have 5 more minutes then let the other girl on it because we share. But Mia climbed down the swings anyway.
Another event also when Mia was around 2.5 yrs old. We were grocery shopping and Mia had this junior trolley cart and wheeled it around with us. Mia had left the cart for a bit while looking at some biscuits when another older girl took the cart. So imagine the surprise! Mia just started fussing and said she wants it back so I looked at the big girl and asked the girl if she would kindly return Mia's trolley-cart back. With prompt by her mother, the big girl did. Once Mia got her trolley back, the bigger girl started crying openly and was upset. That's when Mia looked up to me and had this really sad face! Like I-feel-bad face. The big kid had gone away but now Mia doesn't want the cart anymore. I didn't know what to do or say to her.
Yes, I noticed Mia does have rather strong empathy skills. Once when she was way younger, another kid got hurt on her feet and cried. Mia looked at her, then at her own feet and started getting upset too! I suppose she gets it from me. But up to a point of being "toy-bullied" sometimes at school, I'm not too sure. And certainly not comfortable with it.
Any mommies out there experienced the same thing or have any idea what's going on? A colleague said maybe she's more verbal so once her vocabulary has increased, she'll deal with it verbally. But I'm not sure. I don't know who to ask and what's going on. Most just said I'm lucky, and I should count my blessings. I really am confused.
Mia's an only child.